We would expect you to not be a woman's sanitary product in any event, but what's with the guilt? It's not like you haven't phoned your mother in six weeks. You should feel guilty about that - is there a bro thing happening here that I don't get? QUESTION FOR DISCUSSION I've read the sorry-I've-been-gone post from several others over the year. Do people apologize to other websites when they've been away or is this a hubski phenomenon? mk, anyone? In any event, welcome back indeed.
It's a small, user-centric community. This sort of response is typical of small, user-centric communities. I've been part of a film-related one for ten years now. People wander away and then wander back with a 'here's what I've been up to!' and everyone says "yay!" Unless they don't remember you. Then it's embarrassing. As far as I'm concerned, it's the key advantage of small communities: individuals matter. I've got, at last count, 38 posts to /r/bestof that call me out by name (which doesn't include the stuff that's been deleted) and a trophy case that says "load more trophies" but if you hear my name mentioned on Reddit, it's using the same tone of voice you would use to discuss The Great Old Ones. I mean, I moderate 3.6 million people. "Hey, bob is back!" is pretty meaningless when you're talking about a community the size of Chicago.
Would you have said the same thing about it years ago when you were more active? I think it's less that the site has grown and more that your level of activity has not kept up with it. > I mean, I moderate 3.6 million people. Weird to think about, isn't it? I'm at, like, 9 million total, I think.
There's a causality there you're missing. You presume that I got less active and Reddit shifted; I got less active BECAUSE Reddit shifted. I, and others, fought it tooth and claw. True this, Republic of that. And yes - I know the "power users" today. They have high karma. They moderate nothing. They are the kings of pun threads, and the average exchange in /r/Centuryclub belongs in /r/cringe as a screengrab. The people that made Reddit interesting were driven away by the people that make Reddit inane, because inane content is rewarded at a much higher rate than interesting content. What used to make a "power user" was somebody who found interesting content first. What makes a "power user" now is someone who can craft the perfect reposted Imgur album for /r/risingthreads.
Unless they don't remember you. Then it's embarrassing. I've seen this happen a hundred times on various small fora -- the response is either ten other absent community members come out of the woodwork to welcome the user back and exchange catch-me-ups ... or no one comments at all. Both are sort of stupid in my jaded, 'hard to make true friendships on the internet' view.I've been part of a film-related one for ten years now. People wander away and then wander back with a 'here's what I've been up to!' and everyone says "yay!"
Yeah, as far as I'm concerned fuffle set the precedence for a return announcement. I've never really experienced this in an online setting before, but it's certainly happened a lot in real life as friends leave and return to various scenes for various reasons. I see it as another instance of the blurring between IRL and online.
Haha. I understand where you're coming from. I wouldn't have felt as bad as I do had I not committed to sharing chapter one of my novel with hubski. Or if I didn't enjoy the community as much as I do. Plus the guilt over having drunk myself useless in the interim kind of added up I guess. Work got to me too. Well I'm going on a much needed break and working on my novel and some peace of mind. I hope to share the draft I promised soon. Cheers. Edit: any idea what's up with #musicswap? Was kinda hoping to get my hands on some good playlists.
Same. And I've been slacking on music club. This next monday for sure. I made a blog post and everything. I might also make some changes. I feel like a week might actually be too long for one album. Maybe two days: one for listening intently, and the next for discussion? Maybe I'll make a post about it sometime soon.
Hey, maybe we are talking about weekly dj. I'm curious about that too, but I'm more curious about music swap. Probably because I submitted a playlist there that I thought of as quite cool. It would be great to get weekly dj back on track too.
Sometimes I think people get overwhelmed, like nowaypablo . That is the potential downside I see. But as has been discussed I don't think we should downgrade the caliber of the community to adjust for that.
I haven't been on the internet for most of the past week (break started, catching up on sleep and giving my wrists a coding/writing break. Hubski was the one place I felt guilty about leaving alone, which is why I made that blog post yesterday. I know people by username on Hubski. Not just the mods, or the people who are known for being controversial. I have personalities and sometimes faces attached to these usernames. So I feel obligated to keep tabs with them. I think it's like going to a bar or club you frequent, and then disappearing. When you come back, there are people you're close with, and people you're not so close with at the bar, but you know all of them, and they all want to know what you've been up to.