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thenewgreen  ·  3391 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: Pubski: August 12, 2015

Good luck! I hope you are able to transfer, but if not I wish you well in your decision. There are a lot of opportunities out there and you are in a position to take your time, which is great.

When talking with your wife, come prepared with a piece of paper that has positives and negatives written down for "working for a smaller company," and ask her to contribute to the list. I find it's really helpful to let your spouse know that this is both of your decision and that you value their input.

Good vibes heading your way!





blackbootz  ·  3391 days ago  ·  link  ·  

Wow. Yea, per lil's suggestion, I read your advice and I think you're right -- asking for a contribution from your spouse is such a powerful way to show that you value them and receive their thoughts in a constructive way. tng, where do you come up with these?

user-inactivated  ·  3391 days ago  ·  link  ·  

Thanks man. This is really good advice. She's a very rational woman so this might help her see where I'm coming from here. There are emotional factors in play as well, so maybe I ought to list how I'm feeling about everything and why. Hopefully she won't be overwhelmed by too much information.

rinx  ·  3391 days ago  ·  link  ·  

You only get one life. Don't spend it in a job that makes you miserable. I'm sure your wife wants you to be happy too! You guys are on the same team, I bet there's a way to get through this where you both are ok with it.

user-inactivated  ·  3391 days ago  ·  link  ·  

Your spud is inspiring.