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comment by ButterflyEffect
ButterflyEffect  ·  4277 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: The Real Problem With Hooking Up: Bad Sex

I think the biggest problem with "hooking up" is that it's done mostly for selfish reasons - that you want to have sex. The other person isn't really taken into account, and I think that's the key here.

I'm not a very old person by any means, but I've found that good sex is a result of two people truly caring about the other and hoping that they're enjoying it at a high level, and doing what it takes to make that happen.





humanodon  ·  4277 days ago  ·  link  ·  

I'd agree with that. I have heard the 20-30 set called a self-absorbed and selfish generation far more often than if it were a completely false attribution.

thenewgreen  ·  4277 days ago  ·  link  ·  

I've been out of the "hookup" game for nearly 10 years now, but I had my fair share of them prior to meeting my wife. Honestly, most of them weren't that bad, but there were a few that stand out like diamonds in a pile of slightly less shiny diamonds. There's no doubt that both spontaneous sex with a relatively unknown partner and "meaningful" "emotional" sex can be gratifying. There is a reason couples "role-play" to keep it fresh. That said, some of the acts and situations mentioned seem deplorable and I don't think I'd enjoy them much.

humanodon  ·  4277 days ago  ·  link  ·  

You mean acts like, "a young man masturbating into the mouth of a nearly comatose young woman, a young woman blowing a guy she just met because it "seemed like the thing to do," which is of course, next to a plug for a related story entitled, "Why Hookups Are Good for Women" ?

thenewgreen  ·  4276 days ago  ·  link  ·  

Yep, those would be the acts.