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goobster  ·  1366 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: Pubski: July 1, 2020

It wouldn't have been a decision. It would have been a simple animal retaliatory action against something that hurt me. No thought involved. Just reaction.

Later I could consider the ethical conundrum, but in the moment, I just needed to retaliate against the unfair game I had been forced into playing without my knowledge.





Hyperseeker  ·  1366 days ago  ·  link  ·  

Does the antagonistic nature of "you vs. the employer" play any role here? I'm sure I'd be hurt to be sacked, but "fighting back" against something that wasn't of any harm does not come to me as the first natural step.

kleinbl00  ·  1366 days ago  ·  link  ·  

If my employees' relationship with me is antagonistic I have FUCKED UP ROYALLY. I need them to represent me as the absolute best possible choice for my clients, and I need their every daily action to be one in which they come out shining by way of making me shine. If you have employees, you have them because you don't have the resources to do the work which means you need someone who can deliver the level of excellence necessary for you to succeed.

Military recruits are treated like shit when they come aboard because they need to be indoctrinated. Once indoctrinated, many of them tattoo that insignia on their goddamn bodies they're so fucking proud of what they do. A job should be something where you are proud and honored to show off who you work for. It usually isn't these days which is a sign of just how fucking broken the contract is.

Don't defend broken contracts.

Hyperseeker  ·  1366 days ago  ·  link  ·  

This off-topic comment got three shares in less than 20 minutes.

Something tells me my research won't go fruitfully in this thread.

I don't disagree with you. It's just... I asked a simple question.

kleinbl00  ·  1366 days ago  ·  link  ·  

And I answered. I think you're spooked because you assume as given that the relationship between employer and employee is antagonistic and holy fuck, boy, that's the wrong goddamn way to live.

One of my midwives bought a house nine months ago. Keeps me up at night because if I can't find her work? She's on the goddamn street. Another one of my midwives had to go to war with her school to get her thesis accepted. I counted up my favors and lined up a Columbia law professor to unleash the Dogs of War on her school because fucking hell if she can't get through this she's burned her career. This whole COVID thing? My A Number One concern is how the fuck I'm going to keep feeding my employees enough work to cover their family needs because I have like four employees whose boyfriends and spouses are 100% out of work and have been for quite some time.

The human thing is to recognize that you have an agreement with other humans whereby they do stuff for you and you do stuff for them and that basic cooperation is the fundamental basis for civilization. But our work arrangements have become so fucking inhuman that we're taking as a basis this Dickensian poorhouse mentality whereby we shouldn't have asked for more fucking gruel or some shit. If my employees are having shitty lives? They're going to make shitty employees. That's the sociopathic way to look at it and you'll note that even from a sociopathic basis, this is a positive-sum game. So why do employers treat their employees like shit? Because when you're big enough they're cogs. And cogs are replaceable. And your business is no longer made of people, it's made of quarterly reports and stock buybacks and what humans are left are human despite the machine but let's never lose sight of the fact that it's a machine, that it shouldn't run this way, that it doesn't have to, and the minute you accept the fact that work is supposed to be torture you're asking to be tortured every day for the rest of your life.

And frankly? Speaking as an entrepreneur with six employees? you're fucking worthless to me. Your motivations are pathologically damaged. I can't even get anything out of you until you learn that my hand is out to pet you, not to strike you.

Shit was fucking broken when I left in 2007 and it's gotten more broken since. The breakdown has been radically, breathtakingly accelerated with COVID and the center will not hold. The only way you can live through this is by choosing to, and you need to choose not to default to an antagonistic relationship with your employer. And if they choose to have an antagonistic relationship with you?

Leave. Leave as soon as you are able.

_refugee_  ·  1365 days ago  ·  link  ·  

It is a dominant/subordinate relationship and that can easily become antagonistic especially in a bad work environment or with employees who don't feel safe. And it's very reasonable to note that employees may not feel safe in work environments due to no fault of their employer -- previous bad experiences, trust issues, lack of accepting the self leading to greater insecurities, etc.

I see why you would have used that characterization. At a good workplace, the relationship isn't antagonistic. But it easily can be.

goobster  ·  1361 days ago  ·  link  ·  

I'm not sure you understand what happens when you get fired... rent comes due and you can't pay it. That car repair you were hoping to have enough money to take care of this month, isn't going to happen - and is only going to get worse/more expensive - while you are using your car EVEN MORE than usual to get around to interviews. Food isn't going into the fridge for at least several weeks while you are out of work, and you are reduced to eating those weird canned goods in the back of the cabinet.

And, while all this stress is piling up, you need to be all sunshine and rainbows and positivity in your interviews, IF you can even get any interviews.

So yeah.... suddenly having the central pillar of your life yanked out from under you DOES hurt, and causes panic almost instantly.

So no, there is no calculation of relationship status or any of that bullshit. You go straight into panic mode. Self defense. Retaliation. The psychological process (and damage) is well known.

Hyperseeker  ·  1361 days ago  ·  link  ·  

"Does <this factor> play a role?"

"Now here is what plays a role..."

How does one receive an answer to a simple question without getting diminished in the process?