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kleinbl00  ·  1479 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: It's the International Trans Day of Visibility. I'm Trans. Ask Me Questions?

...so in my head I was going "I thought it was a dude with the MR2s and the shop and the chickens I swear I saw a beard"

...but that's not really an easy discussion to broach

...So I guess as someone who has known and interacted with you since before you were thinking about transitioning

...how exactly would you be most comfortable with me regarding you? Regarding our past interactions? One thing about 'sp00ns' transition is I kinda felt like we were part of it which gave me, at least, an angle to approach her. One thing about Quats' transition is she was pretty much "I'm a girl now!" which was the anchor my daughter's friend used. But you've taken on a new identity, which I respect and understand, and our interactions are psuedonymous, so there's a level of filter there anyway, but which also kind of leaves me not quite sure how to not be awkward.

Curious as to your thoughts.





ilex  ·  1478 days ago  ·  link  ·  

So I didn't mean to be confusing — I mostly changed names because the juxtaposition of "me two years before" and "me at the time" felt jarring and also I had a great idea for a new handle! I'm still lm elsewhere, but I can see how the change here would come across as something a bit more serious. "lm is a girl now" is more or less how I feel about it.

Also, sorry for disappearing for a while. I really did miss y'all but hot damn I felt like a mess for most of it. Now that I have the benefit of hindsight and being able to rearrange thoughts and feelings and memories into coherent shapes it's easier to talk about, but you know that none of that shit happens in a nice linear fashion or makes one lick of sense at the time.

kleinbl00  ·  1478 days ago  ·  link  ·  

This is exactly the clarity I was looking for. Thank you.

You were missed. And then there was some confusion. ;-)

ilex  ·  1478 days ago  ·  link  ·  

I'm glad to be back among friends :)

MR2 will definitely make an appearance here as soon as the yard dries out some. It's in our "barn" right now; spring rains make the driveway to the basement garage impassable for much of February, March, and April.