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_refugee_  ·  166 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: Pubski: April 4, 2018

If I can chime in without coming across as being superior (which I fear my first paragraph might a bit - I'm presuming on our established friendship - pls bear wit meh) --

I wouldn't worry too much about being surrounded by people a couple (5-8) years younger than you are! I wonder if there's an undertone of "It's harder to find people to date when I'm 26 and a lot of the people I hang out with aren't even old enough to drink" (because when I was that age and dating, being old enough to drink was kind of a hard line in perception to me) - but then - ignore me projecting.

What I meant to say is that, at 26, and also now at 28, I've definitely accumulated a number of friends who are also that much older than me. I inherited (or upherited?) some friends from my sister, who's 5 years younger than me, which played a big part...but for the most part...I don't think there is anything negative or to be judged for that. The older you get, the more you can "stretch" the age range you hang out with and it matters less, I think. By your mid-twenties, I think everyone in the twenties decade should be considered "normal age range for standard friends."

And that being said - I have several friends much older than that! Nodding at several among the hubski crew, yes -- but certainly not limited in any way to them, either.

Also, mega huge congratulations on the scholarships - and have you explored the potential for employer reimbursement? I forget where you are working atm.




blackbootz  ·  162 days ago  ·  link  ·  

    I wonder if there's an undertone of "It's harder to find people to date when I'm 26 and a lot of the people I hang out with aren't even old enough to drink" (because when I was that age and dating, being old enough to drink was kind of a hard line in perception to me) - but then - ignore me projecting.

No, you were spot on. What ails me has pretty large dating component, I just left that out for some reason.

    Also, mega huge congratulations on the scholarships - and have you explored the potential for employer reimbursement? I forget where you are working atm.

For undergraduate? I'm still finishing my economics bachelors. I'll be interning at Morgan Stanley this summer.

_refugee_  ·  156 days ago  ·  link  ·  

Well, depending on your employer, but the short answer is yes, you might be able to get tuition reimbursement undergrad or grad. The long answer is that it's less likely the more indie your employer is (and I suspect yours is more indie than not) -- I also feel at this point you'd probably know if otherwise, so sorry for throwing you down a rabbithole =)

goobster  ·  165 days ago  ·  link  ·  

    ... The older you get, the more you can "stretch" the age range you hang out with ...

Can confirm. I'm pushing 50 and have close friends between about 23 and 75.

I also can no longer tell the difference between someone who is 20, and someone who is 40. It honestly doesn't matter to me, and I don't care.

Knowing and socializing with at least 3 generations of people is the key to Perspective.

goobster  ·  165 days ago  ·  link  ·  

    ... The older you get, the more you can "stretch" the age range you hang out with ...

Can confirm. I'm pushing 50 and have close friends between about 23 and 75.

I also can no longer tell the difference between someone who is 20, and someone who is 40. It honestly doesn't matter to me, and I don't care.

Knowing and socializing with at least 3 generations of people is the key to Perspective.

goobster  ·  165 days ago  ·  link  ·  

    ... The older you get, the more you can "stretch" the age range you hang out with ...

Can confirm. I'm pushing 50 and have close friends between about 23 and 75.

I also can no longer tell the difference between someone who is 20, and someone who is 40. It honestly doesn't matter to me, and I don't care.

Knowing and socializing with at least 3 generations of people is the key to Perspective.