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kleinbl00  ·  1354 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: Walking away from Louis CK

From the article linked above:

    She is now 55. Though she works regularly, her films rarely involve red carpets. In the past decade only one of her films has had a US cinema release: a low-budget rustic horror called Jug Face. Otherwise, the answer to the question of “where is she now?” is a rented apartment in Astoria, Queens. The play is a six-week run of the comedy Vanya and Sonia and Masha and Spike being staged in a town called Northport, an hour’s drive from New York, population 7,401.

Also from the article:

    Admitting to an alcohol problem, she went into rehab. It didn’t take. Three years later, she appeared on a reality TV show called Celebrity Rehab. It was, she says, her personal low. “Except for the fact that I could retire on the money and I only had to work for 10 days: that part was good.” This is also underlined. (After the Oscar arrest in 2012, she insisted she was sober.)

Debra Winger is supposedly "difficult" too.

I don't think the problem is "dumb" white men. I had a conversation with my wife last night when John Oliver mentioned Louis CK. I paused it and said "Something's been bugging me. A lot of these guys masturbated in front of women uninvited. We've known each other a while and it would not occur to me to masturbate in front of you. I'm well aware that men care about their penises a lot more than women do and I do not believe that my jacking off in front of you increases my amorous standing one iota. Am i wrong?"

My wife observed that she certainly had no interest in watching me or anyone else jack off, and that in her limited experience with other women, she didn't think she was an outlier.

It's like dick pics - nobody wants to see your junk. yet when I talk to women, they've all been sent unsolicited dick pics. If you walk around in a raincoat flashing women you're a pervert but if you do it in the halls of power you're "flawed" and we construct narratives about how the dynamic isn't entirely about power because someone's "advances" were misconstrued or some shit.

But the reality of the situation is that women are about as interested in watching dudes play with their junk as dudes are in watching other people play with their junk.

I've got a friend who was miking up a hollywood legend once. I could show you his picture and you'd say his name immediately. My friend walked over and started putting a mic on the guy, at the age of 25, and the guy reached into my friend's pants and grabbed his nuts, and proceeded to hold them the entire time he got miked up saying "be very careful." And that got laughed off because ha ha, hollywood, ha ha, legend, ha ha, obviously it wasn't sexual harassment because he wasn't into dudes or anything and besides it was the '80s.

But it sure as fuck was about power.

And I think that's why this thing isn't going to go away and why we're going to be disappointed no matter the outcome - it's 100% about power and we're simply observing a truly reprehensible way in which power structures are established, in which women have been forced to put up with the overwhelming majority of the abuse for the same reason we expect medical residents to work 30 hours a day: their superiors went through it so by damn it's time they got to inflict it on someone else.

Somebody first clued Harvey Weinstein in on what he could get away with. He may be Patient Zero to us, but he sure isn't Patient Zero to him.

coffeesp00ns  ·  1353 days ago  ·  link  ·  

What's the saying? everything is about sex, except sex - sex is about power.

goobster  ·  1353 days ago  ·  link  ·  

It is the rare woman that wants to see a man's dick. Ever, really.

Women are generally not wired up like men. Men prefer the visual stimulation thing, women prefer to be intellectually stimulated. Rash generalization, but apropos.

And yet... men continually flash women, show them their johnson, and expect... well... what?

I don't think men really expect anything.

I think it is a dominance thing. I can behave THIS BADLY, and you can't do anything about it.

In the end, it ain't about the dick. It's about the domination of another person.

Too bad that in puritanical America, we focus on the dick, and not the underlying dominance problem. Maybe the new wave of awareness that is breaking over our shores, will help us address that deeper problem.