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humanodon  ·  2359 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: Pubski: October 11, 2017

Yo!

Good nurses are in short supply. It's been a while since we talked, but in my own re-entry to education, I've felt some similar stuff and for my part, I wasn't able to hold it all together until graduation. But, I'm feeling better after a break. Not the point!

What I will say is, I had a meeting with my advisor where I was talking about my chosen discipline (conflict resolution) and parallels to music. You are a musician. What I was saying is that I feel like sometimes in dicey situations, I have to fall back on lessons that I learned from music; I know the changes, the progressions, my own capabilities, etc. and a lot of it is dealing with the emergent as it comes. And as you know, in live music playing with other people, that means fucking up and then bending it around so that it isn't so much a fuck up.

If you know your shit in nursing like you know your shit in music, are these fuckups things that will totally derail the flow? I have no idea, but you probably do. It might be hell right now, but if qualified experts said that you were cool to drop in, maybe there's something to that. On the other hand, given that you know yourself, are there things that need to happen so that you can take care of yourself and thereby be better situated to help your patients?

Anyway, I hope that things work out man. Send sweet jams when you can.





ghostoffuffle  ·  2359 days ago  ·  link  ·  

It is so good to hear from you, and with solid advice and a good perspective to boot. Guess it makes sense, given your current track. I don't know half the shit I need to as a nurse yet; they say it takes a good five years before you can really even consider yourself a novice in the field. I'll get there, though. In the meantime, jams are forthcoming at some point. Hope your education is going well- breaks are not a bad thing. In retrospect, wish I'd taken one. How long you have left?

humanodon  ·  2359 days ago  ·  link  ·  

It was kind of unwilling, but at this point it's a good 4 months. It's been inconvenient and has kind of messed with my projected timelines, but it's tough to write a thesis on equity and inclusion when studying led to me excluding myself from my own life and my own relationships. Hardly a great place to write from, you know?

As for how long, I don't know. I just have to write the damn thing. Man, that is a huge deal to set yourself on a path where you are helping people on less than great days in their lives. It's even bigger to realistically look at how much time it will take to earn the competence it takes to deal with that capably. Positive self-perception is huge in contributing to feelings of belonging in general and if you're really serious about being a nurse, then finding places where you can get acknowledgement will be crucial to the concretization of that identity. Build those relationships where you can, and if building those relationships is difficult, that's not necessarily all on you. There's a lot of research on mentorship being done these days in employee success. Are there opportunities for mentorship in your professional context?

Anyway, I hope it gets better man, sorry it was a hairy one today.

kleinbl00  ·  2358 days ago  ·  link  ·  

I miss you both.

ghostoffuffle

humanodon  ·  2358 days ago  ·  link  ·  

Cheers KB. Will try to come back here more regularly!

ghostoffuffle  ·  2358 days ago  ·  link  ·  

Right back atcha.