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_refugee_  ·  2422 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: Pubski: August 30, 2017

This coworker, is he your peer, superior, or below? Speaking strictly in terms of actual work titles. How does he impact your job at work, speaking strictly in a work-related sense?

Cuz honestly, those answers can play a very real impact on how you should try to handle him.

Edit: Also. Have you tried just agreeing with him? You don't have to actually agree with him. But have you tried just telling him you do? Jw





user-inactivated  ·  2422 days ago  ·  link  ·  

He's a peer. We both hold the same job title, do the same tasks, etc.

_refugee_  ·  2422 days ago  ·  link  ·  

see edit but basically, in this sort of scenario, I do wonder how much it would hurt just to agree with him.

My book club always had waaaay better conversations when everyone disagreed or had different opinions. We found that it was harder to talk about novels we were all in agreement on. Hmm?

user-inactivated  ·  2422 days ago  ·  link  ·  

If I'm being brutally, brutally honest. I think agreeing with him would hurt my image with my other co-workers because I know some make fun of him for believing in this stuff (to be fair, we all poke fun at eachother for various things, from height to enjoying professional wrestling to playing too many video games) and I don't want to be thought of as someone who believes in that stuff too. At the same time, and this is part of the reason why I find the conversations so weird and uncomfortable, is that I find the ideas so against reasonableness that I find them distasteful to say the least. I feel like agreeing with him just to placate him as wrong.

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oyster  ·  2422 days ago  ·  link  ·  

Have you tried just saying "cool" and changing the subject ? You aren't going to change that type of persons opinion, they probably need to believe in the crap for some weird reason. You might have dug yourself in too deep for this trick though since you've engaged him in the conversations before.

user-inactivated  ·  2422 days ago  ·  link  ·  

I think if the socratic method won't work, I'll just start trying to change and/or ignore the subject. I'll have to figure out a way to do it politely.