My Robust Pleasure Source and I have a survival world shared with her little brother and it's been a ton of fun.
I've never been a fan of big multiplayer servers unless they were super casual. At one point I had leased server time to host a Hubski exclusive world but it was hard to get everyone together it seemed. I would restart it if there was sufficient interest.
I don't have that when winning, moreso when losing. I've made small goals for each game to achieve which keeps me sane and focused. Fighting uphill battles can be frustrating and anxiety producing, though.