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oyster  ·  2758 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: Confessions of an American Pumpkin Eater

You're not getting it. You were given an inch. An inch of my experience, something I lived, something I could have provided more details of but you didn't ask for those. You didn't even remember the details long enough to begin your reply. Instead you assume I told the story wrong or exaggerated and that you know the situation better than the person who lived it does despite seriously not even remembering the details long enough to form your reply. Don't you think that's a little arrogant ? Why do you think you did that ? That's not a question I need the answer to by the way, that's just for your own thinking.

I don't waste a lot of time on people who try to tell me they understand my life experiences better than I do because even if you don't think that's arrogant I sure do.

I asked the other person this but I'll ask you too, have you ever pirated music ? Because it's a bit odd to feel morally superior for not cheating but then steal. I'm also not going to be told cheating is wrong by a theif that's for sure.

Pointing out that my male science teachers treated me differently isn't sexism... It's an observation of my own life. The life I lived, the experiences I had which you have no authority over but for some odd reason think you do. So now not only have you told me that I'm wrong about my own experiences of possible sexism, you have attempted to find a way in which I was sexist when in reality it didnt exist.

Congratulations.





bioemerl  ·  2758 days ago  ·  link  ·  

    Instead you assume I told the story wrong or exaggerated

Yes, absolutely. People don't remember things accurately, and people's reports of situations are almost never accurate, especially when their description of the situation is to their benefit. I assume you are biased because people are biased. I assume you are leaving out a lot of information, because people only tend to pick up on/remember the details that support their view.

Never, never, trust even your own personal experiences. They are biased as shit, and have been proven to be untrustworthy time and time and time again. We aren't logical beings, we are incredibly biased, illogical, and self-serving.

    Don't you think that's a little arrogant ? Why do you think you did that ?

I explained my reasoning fairly well in my post, I thought, both to myself and to you. What about my description or reasoning is lacking, what would you like clarification on?

I know the answer you want me to say, that I'm scared of facing the reality that women could possibly face sexism. Perhaps, in some part, that is true. I won't deny that is possible, but knowing such things is well beyond my own personal ability to judge, and I have no indication in my present mindset that such a thing is true, instead, my general skepticism of people's experiences is pretty damned consistent across all manner of topics, especially religion and spiritual bullshit.

There are literally people out there who have been convinced they were abducted by aliens. "experience" doesn't prove anything, in fact, it makes me more keen to not believe someone than it is to make me believe them. I'd much rather have someone without direct experience, but research and facts, than someone with first party experience every day of the week.

    I asked the other person this but I'll ask you too, have you ever pirated music ?

Oh yes.

I also eat meat, lots of it, while thinking about the poor chicken with their cut throats softly clucking as the farmer it trusted holds a bloody knife.

I also create tons of CO2 pollution, ruining the world for future generations so I can drive to have a mcdonalds hamburger.

I also purchase water while joking about how purina steals water from deserts and drives african tribes to starve of thirst.

I also joke about male chicks being ground up for the process of making eggs while I make an omelette.

Lets not forget the literal slavery that produced the rare earth metals in the computer I'm typing on.

And the fact that I live in a society atop land created by the genocide of peoples.

And lets not forget that I kill thousands of bugs and other living creatures every time I go outside, for little more reason than my own entertainment.

Why, for example, does my piracy of music matter? Yes, I may be a hypocrite, but that doesn't make your cheating good behavior.

    Pointing out that my male science teachers treated me differently isn't sexism... It's an observation of my own life.

Saying that women suck at science and math isn't sexism, It's an observation of my own life. I've taught for 30 years, and the women's papers are always worse than the men's papers!

Yeah, because you are a biased person who sees in the world what they want to see. Just like the above example, where the women probably would do very well without the idiot teaching them, your biased judgement of your male teachers can lead you to false conclusions about their intents and character.

    Congratulations.

I'm going to print this and hang it on my wall, inspired to do well every day by your sarcastic praise!

oyster  ·  2758 days ago  ·  link  ·  

I'm sorry but to put it bluntly I honestly have no intention of continuing a conversation with somebody who assumes they know another persons life better than they do. That is arrogance at its finest. You did not ask for more details in order to better understand, you did not collect evidence, you merely decided you knew it better based off a short description on the internet that you could not even commit to memory long enough to remember the simplest details of. Speaking with you longer won't get us any farther. You can pat yourself on the back now that somebody is off to hide from your dissenting opinions or whatever it is you tell yourself these days.