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comment by flac
flac  ·  3155 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: How to be alone?

That's definitely the big question right now. I am having a very hard time remembering what exactly I wanted to do with my life before her, I feel like I was so determined that I could take any job as long as it was near her that I forgot what the job that I ACTUALLY wanted was.





oyster  ·  3155 days ago  ·  link  ·  

When I was younger I did something similar and instead of deciding what I wanted to do I just did what I thought was expected of me. I did that until I realized one day sitting in class that me in a desk job was the most absurd, dumbest idea I have ever come up with. Which leads me into another piece of advice... don't overthink things too much. I spent a lot of energy trying to figure out what I wanted to do after I dropped out but what really helped was just having new experiences. I ended up moving to do housekeeping at a hotel even though I had always done jobs in customer service. I thought I hated customer service since my only experience was as a grocery store cashier but doing this job helped me realize that I missed interacting with customers. As I gained new experiences I started realizing more and more what I wanted. I realized things I didn't like as well although I never saw them as mistakes. It was just my way of crossing different things off my list by living instead of trying to guess what I wouldn't like.

So ya, that's my general advice, just try new things without overthinking them. You'll either realize you love it, love some part of it, or hate it. In the end it will all bring you a step closer to where you want to be so it's all just a part of the journey.