This article wouldn't exist if straight women used Tinder the way it was meant to be used, as the heterosexual counterpart to Grindr. In my mind, this 'tinderization' is just part of the formation of the global brain that was once such a popular topic of discussion around here (Paging theadvancedapes if you're still around Cadell). Nodes in the network need to establish linkages with other nodes, and part of that process is establishing nodes that will NOT connect, or will connect only shallowly. The rate of turnover for all kinds of things is going up, and I'd bet that romantic partner turnover has never been as high as it is right now, excluding periods of high mortality/violence.
I wouldn't say that, a big part of the article, the overabundance of choice, would still hold true. I certainly suffer from seeking out too much information in an effort to make an "informed" decision, be it Yelp reviews to find the "best" restaurant or comparing options on Tinder or wherever else. The constant connection and availability of information is exhausting at times, and that side of the article was a bigger takeaway for me than relationship turnover rate.
I'm really just not happy with the use of Tinder as the analogous app of choice, because that overabundance you're talking about is pretty one sided. I agree with the sentiment of 'We have more data than we know what to do with' and can relate to the experience of data/choice paralysis. For what tinder was designed for however, 'Bone, or don't bone' it's Supposed to turn people into a 1 or a 0. That is literally the intention. When we design for nuance, well, that's how you get hubski. I think.
I think the fact that it's turned into a more nuanced app is an indictment of society, though. Yes, I agree that the intention of TInder was to provide a Yes/No 1/0 binary, but it has evolved beyond that into a "Yes but not if I find someone else on this next swipe" and the feeling that there is always something equally or more enticing available. The latter is much more prevalent in society today, at least in my experiences. Then the question becomes: Why are we using Tinder in such a way, why do we feel like there's always a better option available in our hook-ups, relationships, restaurant choices, etc.?
Really? I have not had this experience, in part because everyone is gone once you swipe them, so it's not possible to make comparable decisions. I will also state that occasionally, when I have Tindered, there is a third option to the left/right binary: for whatever reason I have come across individuals I neither want to swipe left, or right on, and when that happens, I exit the app. (Usually it's people I know in real life that admittedly, yes, I know I'd like to bone, but I don't want them to know I want to bone them. Usually because boning isn't actually what it's all about. Let's call it "confused attraction." Am I currently dating someone who I was confusedly attracted to and refused to swipe either way on? You bet your pants I am. The confused attraction is always reserved for people I know IRL, of course.)it has evolved beyond that into a "Yes but not if I find someone else on this next swipe"