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am_Unition  ·  3149 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: Vi Hart: On Gender

Occasionally I'll run a self-analysis and compile thoughts on my own sexuality and gender identity, so maybe it's time to write a summary.

If this were a big stage comedy sketch, I'd write some lead up to this punchline: "Thank God I'm not gay!". I could simultaneously offend two communities, the Christians and the gays, and especially belittle the Christian gays. Oh I forgot, mainstream comedy sucks. Let's start over.

I've given it some thought, and I honestly think that even if I had any "genetic predisposition" to homosexual attraction, it's been so overwritten with social/cultural programming of male heterosexuality and masculinity that it's likely irreconcilable. In other words: I'm a dude, and other dudes just don't seem attractive to me. But wait: there is worldwide cultural incentive to stay (majority?)* heterosexual. That's fucked up. And that's a perpetuating cycle; cultural programming becoming culture becoming...

I had a very masculine gay friend who once told me that he didn't understand why the stereotypical gay mannerisms were "the way that they are". I would argue that most gay males exhibit more "feminine" behaviors than their heterosexual counterparts, and vice versa for women. Eventually, I've realized that there exists an entire spectrum of gender identity and sexuality, and although some patterns dominate, there are interesting outlying data points of people.

It's neat how different people are from person to person. And I'm pretty boring in where I lie on this particular spectrum.

*I think small amounts of homosexuality are acceptable in mainstream American culture.

P.S. I still love all Hubskiers.





jleopold  ·  3149 days ago  ·  link  ·  

    I'm a dude, and other dudes just don't seem attractive to me.

For my own curiosity, can you tell how attractive other guys are? For example, I can tell when a guy is really, really attractive, but beyond that, I find it hard to say if one is specifically more attractive than a other.

am_Unition  ·  3149 days ago  ·  link  ·  

    For my own curiosity, can you tell how attractive other guys are?

Oh yeah, for sure. I'm pretty decent at gauging other guys' general attractiveness, but I just don't feel the attraction.

thenewgreen  ·  3149 days ago  ·  link  ·  

I think there is a clear difference between knowing if a guy is attractive and wanting to have sex with them. I can look at dogs, all of the same breed and be able to distinguish the most attractive dog. -doesn't mean I want to have sex with it. or does it?

jleopold  ·  3148 days ago  ·  link  ·  

I most certainly wasn't trying to imply anything of that nature and am honestly sorry that you took it that way. To me, how well we judge attractiveness is just an interesting sidebar to sexuality, with just as broad a spectrum, and it's own influences and consequences on our society.

thenewgreen  ·  3148 days ago  ·  link  ·  

I took no offense. Sorry if it seemed so.

dingus  ·  3149 days ago  ·  link  ·  

sometimes I get a little questioning of my sexuality because I'm really, really good at identifying exactly how attractive a guy is.

All doubt is washed away once I see a prime female specimen, though.