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_refugee_  ·  3538 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: Pubski: April 15, 2015

It is very rare for opportunities to truly be lost, especially those between people. It is hard work to burn something. She may still be a little interested.

If you don't like small talk (and talking in general apparently - whooo) then why perform small talk in order to attract someone who presumably likes small talk in general or likes it specifically with you? The danger of changing a preference in order to be more attractive is that unfortunately, you attract people who like the "new you" - which may not be you at all - more like "you trying to be attractive" you.





ButterflyEffect  ·  3538 days ago  ·  link  ·  

Nah, she's got a boyfriend now and even if she didn't I'm leaving soon so nope nope nope. I just...people are interesting but expending the energy to talk to people and get to know them isn't something I'm ever going to go far out of my way to do because it's hard to find reasons to care enough to do so. Talking to all of y'all on Hubski is one thing but in person and all that is something entirely different. Not planning on changing it's just a "what if" thought experiment. Why the "whooo"?