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kleinbl00  ·  3694 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: Pubski: January 7, 2015

Any 16-year-old that gets along with her parents is kidding herself. Three generations ago they would have married you off by now to start your own household.

The other thing: EVERYBODY worries they're weird at your age. The most popular person in your school goes to sleep every night terrified that everyone will figure out what a freak she is.

Best thing you can do at your age is to develop a self-sustaining work ethic and an ability to see through the eyes of other people. Every person in every class you take is freaking out and fighting with their parents, but they're all so self-absorbed they think they're the only ones. That's what it means to be a teenager - skills and strengths of an adult, responsibilities of a child. It makes you self-centered. In the land of the blind, the one-eyed girl is queen: if you can learn to see the worries of others, consider how others are impacted by events and comport yourself for others you will be a lone visionary.

It gets easier, but it'll take several years. Strap in, hang on, and remember that you're soaking in excess hormones and your neurons are undergoing a massive pruning unlike anything you've experienced since you were a toddler. From a neurochemical standpoint, you're experiencing the equivalent of your Terrible Twos and menopause simultaneously. It's gonna suck.





user-inactivated  ·  3694 days ago  ·  link  ·  

Former high school student.

This is all correct.

swedishbadgergirl  ·  3694 days ago  ·  link  ·  

I do try to see others, and I've realized that EVERY GIRL in my old class was kind of, well, broken. I know i might sound dramatic but my teacher confirmed it. She basically had a big speech about actually making sure your teenager eats prepared for the parent-teacher meeting and said we were very exhausting to deal with.

I have been treated as a prophet by my friends for saying thing like;

"Well [teacher] is probably pissed off at you because she had Lyme disease last week and because she has 3 toddlers. I'm pretty sure she has more important things to worry about than you being bitchy at her. Don't take it personally."

When they wondered if a teacher hated them. Like yes I'm sure you are the most important thing on her mind right now the first year after getting back to work after having twins.

I can get along with people if i try, but recently I just feel like sleeping forever.This is most likely due to the fact that I have a fever and it feels like my head is splitting apart. I'm very grumpy right now since I wont be able to go to school tomorrow if this continues and I actually felt like going for a change. So yes. Very grumpy, very terrible twosie.

There is a Swedish woman who says amazing things on the topic of emotions. Like basically "don't worry about emotions, you get new ones all the time".

user-inactivated  ·  3691 days ago  ·  link  ·  

Pretty sure some students in every high school think that some of their teachers hate them; they just haven't woken up to the idea that teachers are human, too. It makes me laugh when my peers comment on teachers hating them, and then they get very serious and say "no, but really." Which makes me laugh more.