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comment by maxwell

    or my parents were terrible parents (equals "are terrible people")

Are all terrible parents terrible people?

lil  ·  2757 days ago  ·  link  ·  

Of course not. Some terrible parents are good people who make terrible mistakes while trying to be good parents (think cults) or who do things that the kids perceive as terrible.

Are parents terrible because they beat their kids when they behave badly. Or are they good parents trying to discipline their kids? It depends on whether you believe that hitting kids is wrong.

My daughter thinks I'm a terrible mother right now because of something I did on Tuesday. Parents and kids do and think things for different reasons and we don't always see it from one another's point of view.

Some parents though are both terrible people and terrible parents.

thenewgreen  ·  2757 days ago  ·  link  ·  

I'm sorry that your daughter is feeling that way about you. This must be very difficult to realize. Is there any validity in her perception of the situation? Is this a minor blip or a rift? I hope it's just a blip.

I had a long conversation with my mom and dad this morning. It was nice, I gained some real insight in to my childhood and early years.

_refugee_  ·  2756 days ago  ·  link  ·  

  This Be The Verse

  They fuck you up, your mom and dad
  They may not mean to, but they do
  They fill you with the faults they had
  and add some extra, just for you

  But they were fucked up in their turn
  by fools in old-style hats and coats
  who half the time were soppy stern
  and half at one another's throats

  man hands on misery to man
  it deepens like a coastal shelf
  get out as early as you can
  and don't have any kids yourself. 
- philip larkin