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_refugee_  ·  3460 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: Attachment Styles and Close Relationships (links to quiz)

from Hubskina:

    “We’re not sure just yet,” Ref said, her face buried in her pillow, completely out of fucks to give.

    “Hey!” Ref cupped her hands around her mouth and shouted. “Maybe they got put on Mute Island because nobody wants to talk to them! Did you think of that one, genius?”

8bit, you're channeling my attachment style in Hubskina, possibly not even consciously. :)

I second TNG. You are worthy and of value. Apparently we both have shitty attachment styles - which, true to form, I don't really mind - but a) I did a lot of reading and it doesn't mean we can't overcome them if we want to/decide it's worth it, and b) you don't have to be a fully functional 100% psychologically healthy human being in order to be worth a fig. You truly truly don't.





thenewgreen  ·  3460 days ago  ·  link  ·  

    if we want to/decide it's worth it
I've decided that, for me, it is worth it.
_refugee_  ·  3460 days ago  ·  link  ·  

And fwiw, tng, I'm going to apply what information I've gleaned from this going forward in my interactions with the bartender. I'm not saying it's love - ha! - but I am saying, hey, maybe I will try some of these cross roads. Maybe I can sidestep some ditches.

I don't see it as attempting to fundamentally change my attachment style, but perhaps attempting to manage it more effectively.

thenewgreen  ·  3459 days ago  ·  link  ·  

That's great, I'm glad this had an impact on you. Whether or not it's hogwash, and for the record I don't think that it is, it has made us take a close look at ourselves. I think a good amount of self-inspection is healthy stuff. Knowing yourself is a good thing.

Good luck in general and more specifically, with that bartender.

_refugee_  ·  3460 days ago  ·  link  ·  

see my comment i just posted