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_refugee_  ·  3748 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: Amazon Is Killing My Sex Life

    I've found that the second you stop yearning for a date is the second you accidentally trip over a guy you can genuinely care about.

Yeah, well, for some of us, the guy's only interesting for a week.

I'm just saying that it's common advice and it's true, but it doesn't mean it is going to solve your problems. I am "not looking" for dates and can accidentally find myself on one about once a week with a different guy. That doesn't mean that that guy is the right one for me. I'm glad you guys have managed to find genuinely interesting people through not-looking, but I don't think it's the only step that one needs to take in order to fulfill the requirements.





OftenBen  ·  3748 days ago  ·  link  ·  

I'd say it's more of a good first step. A more relaxed attitude towards dating generally makes a person more confident, outgoing and easier to be with, as opposed to 'ZOMG YOU'RE INTERESTED IN ME ICAN'TBELEIVEITWE'REGOINGTOHAVEBEAUTIFULBABIES'

insomniasexx  ·  3748 days ago  ·  link  ·  

ButterflyEffect  ·  3748 days ago  ·  link  ·  

Jeezus. There goes the water that was in my mouth. Viewed it from chatter and had NO CONTEXT WHATSOEVER for this.

OftenBen  ·  3748 days ago  ·  link  ·  

I'd say it's more of a good first step. A more relaxed attitude towards dating generally makes a person more confident, outgoing and easier to be with, as opposed to 'ZOMG YOU'RE INTERESTED IN ME ICAN'TBELEIVEITWE'REGOINGTOHAVEBEAUTIFULBABIES'