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AlderaanDuran  ·  3561 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: Paddling into the Waves or What I Learned from Not Muting

    What was on the menu? What were you drinking?

We made some pasta with alfredo sauce and shrimp. The wife then promptly went to bed at like 8pm. Then I had a few 7and7s and and got some much needed time in Lightroom to edit photos.

Thanks for the thoughts on daughters, I've heard that sentiment a lot from numerous other parents I know. When coming into have a baby I was kind of all, "I hope it's a boy", but didn't really have any reasoning beyond being male myself. But the more I hear, read, and think about it, the more I'm looking forward to having a girl. I really didn't care too much either way, but my wife was ecstatic to have a girl I think. Her mom died when she was in her teens and they had a really close relationship, and she feels this is kind of her giving back to the universe in a way. We're naming her after her late mother and grandmother.

I'll be sure to check back in at some point.





thenewgreen  ·  3561 days ago  ·  link  ·  

Wow, the parallels are amazing. My wife's mother died when she was nearly 13 and they too were very close. My wife was ecstatic to have a girl. We recently had our son and my wife was very conflicted about having a boy. She really wanted all girls. Turns out, she's beyond in love with the kid and couldn't be happier with him.

Turns out the old adage, "I just want a healthy child," is pretty spot on.

Again, my best to you three.

AlderaanDuran  ·  3549 days ago  ·  link  ·  

So... on the subject of daughters and our wives being similar...

Went to the local clinic for our weekly checkup last week on Thursday, wife's blood pressure was astronomically high and she had protein in the urine. Her Ob pretty much told her she had preeclampsia, and told us we needed to go directly to labor and delivery at our hospital. When we asked why, she said, "You're going to meet your daughter in the next 24 hours one way or another."

Ran home, grabbed the go-go-pregnant bag, headed to the hospital, got into a labor delivery room. They ran some more tests, yada yada, said "Welp, we need to get that baby out of you! We're going to put you on some drugs and break your bag in the morning." They did. Wife gave birth "traditionally". Long story short, I have a healthy and beautiful baby girl as of 7/25/2014.

All I wanted was a healthy child and so far I have one and couldn't be happier. I don't think I've cried in years but man when she came out and started crying and I knew she was alive.... biggest relief I've ever felt in my life. Never really had a chance to bond with a being growing inside my wife, but at that moment I wanted nothing more than to hear her crying and know she was alive. That was a pretty powerful moment.

Honestly, just feel relieved the whole pregnancy thing is over. "Is it going to be okay?", "Will it be healthy?", "Is my wife okay?", "When will the moment come?" All that stuff is gone now. Such a relief!

Was hoping she'd be born on my birthday, 7/30, but alas that was not in the stars. She was born 7/25. You can't win them all.

thenewgreen  ·  3549 days ago  ·  link  ·  

Congratulations AD! There's nothing like hearing/seeing your child for the first time, especially when there are complications. I've been there.

My best to you three. You have a daughter now, you are someone's father and will likely be the most important person in her world. -such an awesome responsibility!

Enjoy pal!

veen  ·  3549 days ago  ·  link  ·  

Congratulations on a healthy kid! How cute is she?

AlderaanDuran  ·  3548 days ago  ·  link  ·  

Pretty cute. I'm a guy who thinks most babies are ugly, and I'd totally call my baby ugly if she was, but she turned out pretty cute. She looks a lot like me... but yeah, I'm obviously biased.

thenewgreen  ·  3548 days ago  ·  link  ·  

She is objectively cute, nice work. Now, find her a job. Babies are such freeloaders :)