JT, thank you for bringing this to Hubski's attention. This and something similar is really, really bugging me and I'm trying to figure out how to handle it. I think this would be a good place to try to bring it up. I just went on reddit for the first time in a while, and came across an awesome post that put a hearty smile on my face. Then, I read this thread, and it really troubled me, not that it was the first time this has been brought up... but first, let's go back to the front page. Shortly after reading that thread, I saw this post, moreover these comments relating her 'invincibility' from punishment to the "quadcopter girl" who attacked that kid and then had the police arrest him when they showed up based on zero evidence. Surprise surprise, that comment thread ended in a mention of /r/theredpill, and another sub I don't even want to get into. These things really, really trouble me. Both the presence and gravitation towards TRP as well as the fact that what these people are saying about how society would handle the cases is a pretty good bet. Quadcopter girl got probation, for lying to police, falsely accusing a minor of assaulting her right after assaulting that minor. In the first-mentioned askreddit thread, a man was accused of pedophilia for spending time with children at a friends' gathering. It makes me sick.. but let's go back now. I'm not knowledgeable on whatever this subject is to be able to point out or define the issue properly, however: The aforementioned "stories" are serious, real problems in my opinion, so much so that they are perfect recruiting tools for dumps like r/TRP. Al Qaeda couldn't leverage drone strikes on civilians for new recruits as well as TRP leverages the aforementioned shit. I'm not surprised their fanbase is growing. Here's my problem. I don't know what to do about it. I shudder and I grimace at the thought of living in a world where I have to be afraid to talk to kids, or compliment a little girl on her shiny fucking boots. I don't know if this idea, TRP, and the quadcopter girl-esque stories are related, but I think they are somehow. I'm not trying to victimize men but I'm at a loss as to what is happening, and what's going to happen, and what I'm supposed to do when I'm an adult-- a man-- and I have to watch my back constantly from misogynist extremists, a social condemnation of 'manliness', and whatever-the-fuck else is happening that I can't even really explain. I don't know man. But things are going bad and it's starting to stink.
Reddit is not reality. Don't worry about what is said on reddit. You're a performer, so I'm going to assume you know the basics of reading a room and what it feels like to influence the mood of a crowd. I'm not saying "be charismatic and manipulate people" but most definitely get a feel for your face to face interactions and be proactive in trying to make sure that they are positive ones. Most people are not performers and don't understand the power of projecting emotion or even empathy when they interact with others and I think reddit is a prime example. As for "things going bad" and "starting to stink", I think things have always stunk and have always been going bad and pushing against that is just part of the human thing.
When I get offstage I never see the audience again, also I don't typically run the risk of being detained by police if I'm misinterpreted. I know that's not what you're saying though, ideally I should be able to carry on with my life without those sort of issues if I'm expressin myself clearly/honestly and meaning well. Anyway, you're right. I mean first of all I completely let reddit get to me, but more importantly it's just another cobflict and social issue, granted it's even that prevalent, and cam/should be worked around just like any other.
Much the same with most public interactions. Well, we all have our styles. I think you get what I was saying, but for others reading through, I really believe that public interactions are a lot more open to personal influence than people might think. I learned early on that if you can make a scene and get a crowd laughing, then you have a lot of power over perception. Like, scarily so. You can be the rudest motherfucker on the block, but people will let you get away with all kinds of outlandish shit if you can make them laugh or otherwise connect with them emotionally. Part of being a man means learning how to say, "hey, that's not what I meant and you know that, so stop being a cunt about it . . . sir/ma'am."When I get offstage I never see the audience again
also I don't typically run the risk of being detained by police if I'm misinterpreted.
Hehe, I like that. And yeah we're on the same page, thanks. Part of being a man means learning how to say, "hey, that's not what I meant and you know that, so stop being a cunt about it . . . sir/ma'am."
Don't worry, you aren't going to have to live in that world because it's never going to exist. At least, not in the capacity that Reddit claims stuff like that happens. That's such a weird, prevalent circlejerk and I don't understand why, gatdam. It doesn't happen nearly as often as they think it does. Yeah, it happens. Lots of shitty things do. But it's easy to expand those instances and make them stand out as something that happens repeatedly. Pablo, my man, you're going onto Askreddit and thinking the stories are true? For shame. I bet 10 minutes in this guy's post history and there's a 90% chance I could prove this dude isn't even an adult and is some 17 year old perpetuating the circlejerk. By which I mean, take a deep breath. You're letting Reddit get to you. I don't recommend it.I shudder and I grimace at the thought of living in a world where I have to be afraid to talk to kids, or compliment a little girl on her shiny fucking boots.
a man was accused of pedophilia for spending time with children at a friends' gathering.
Word. I'm just getting paranoid over reddit. Whew.
I realized I was getting too paranoid about Reddit when I started wondering if r/GameofTrolls (and subsequent iterations - don't bother trying to click into them, they're all private or banned, but it's a troll-reddit ring, ironic because it appears based wholly within reddit - hence the subreddits) was really just an inside game set up by the admins in order to give people who had been on reddit for 2+ years something to do or be entertained by once the initial "OMG REDDIT IS SHINY AND GREAT" had worn off. There's so much interior reddit drama and so little need for any of it that I began wondering how manufactured it was and if that was really what was bringing people back to the site over and over, since the quality of submissions and links is pretty shitty unless you're diligent about picking up & dropping the right subreddits.
