But for women who’ve been with their partners between one and four years, a dive begins — and continues, leaving male desire far higher.”
A great source of sadness in men.Men want sex but are intimidated, unconfident, or don't want to be seen as domineering.
I do find this interesting; I often hesitate to hit on a girl because I'm worried my attention will be considered unwelcome or even pseudo-rapey somehow.
That bit about declining desire of women in long-term relationships was completely unsurprising to me. Although I don't think the first time you have sex with a new person is likely to be the best, I do find "new" sex inherently more interesting than sex with someone I've had sex with repeatedly before. (To be flip about it, in other words, I move on.) The only way you will get better at hitting on people is if you do it, though. I mean, worry - and your worries at some point may be right, when you say just the wrong thing or stick your foot in your mouth or hit on the wrong gal - but you can't catch fish if you don't stick your hook in the water.
The horrible double standard here is that if the woman thinks you're sexy your advances will be welcome, but if she doesn't find you attractive she will possibly consider them creepy. It's similar to how some people feel "insulted" if someone they consider unattractive approaches them.
I think the fact that you worry about seeming rapy makes you less likely to be.