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_refugee_  ·  3746 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: Unfollow guilt

Knowing someone follows me makes it more likely that I will follow them. It doesn't guarantee it - my standards for following someone include them posting a fair amount of original links, not just personality based on what they share - but I do figure if someone follows me and I interact with them regularly, and key here is that both parameters are met - then I'm much more likely to check out whether I want to follow them by clicking through to their profile.

Because the other thing is I don't share everything I read or comment on on Hubski. I only share what I think is really, really good. So it turns out I've read several articles b_b has posted recently, even though - turns out - shared none of them! Now following b_b. Partially because I saw his name was green and figured, hey, I know b_b! He's cool! Do I want to follow him? He's following me. Let's click through and find out.





b_b  ·  3746 days ago  ·  link  ·  

The site looks totally weird now, and I don't like it. I'm used to seeing your name in blue, and have for the last year or whatever. Your posts were so much easier to pick out. Now I'm going to have to try :/

_refugee_  ·  3746 days ago  ·  link  ·  

Hahaha, I can take it back :)

b_b  ·  3746 days ago  ·  link  ·  

No you can't. You'll feel super bad about yourself for hurting my feelings. It's not possible to put the toothpaste back in the tube.

_refugee_  ·  3746 days ago  ·  link  ·  

Not that I'm a psychopath or anything (I keep feeling the need to reassure Hubski of this) - I was writing up a reply to lil about her unfollow guilt tangent, which I liked - but I rarely feel guilt about things. It is true I do sometimes; I've found when I do I immediately act to get rid of it.

Also, I don't know. I'm a person of few rules. What rules I have are simple, sometimes unexpected, and I follow rigidly, but outside of them, much is flexible and undefined. See how it goes! See how it makes you feel! If you don't like it, don't do it again. That's more my take on things.

Edit: In other words, nyah nyah nyah b_b, if I don't unfollow you, it won't be for your precious feels.

humanodon  ·  3746 days ago  ·  link  ·  

    Not that I'm a psychopath or anything (I keep feeling the need to reassure Hubski of this)

This reminds me of something I used to hear from a girl I used to hang out with, who would sometimes say, "I'm the most normal person I know," which struck me as a particularly abnormal thing to say.

Also, is it psychopaths who don't feel guilt, or is it sociopaths?

_refugee_  ·  3746 days ago  ·  link  ·  

My reading actually tells me "psychopath" is not the preferred nomenclature and the term is, if I recall correctly, "dissociative affective disorder," but I was using the word for recognition more than correctness. I don't think hubski actually thinks I am psycho- or socio-pathic - one reason I feel comfortable continually reassuring you all I'm not. I may use the reassurance as much for myself as the community at large.