My only real comment/question I feel safe bringing up (As a White Anglo Saxon Protestant Male) is, this. This Paglia person says that (paraphrasing) "Women should 'Grow Up' and become Men's equals, not putting themselves in situations where they can get raped, much in the same way they take precautions to avoid robbery or violence." and the author never really comes up with a good counterpoint. Isn't it most progressive, and mature to say that there are bad men, and bad women, and that men and women should be personally responsible for their own safety, because it is naive to assume that other people will do it for them?
Two things: 1) "This Paglia person" is Camille Paglia, who is in the same cohort as Gloria Steinem, Sandra Bernhardt and Helen Gurley Brown. She's been a leading feminist intellectual since the Reagan '80s. She's been answering this question since Murphy Brown was a thing. Here she is on C-SPAN.. Our author didn't stand a chance in that interview. She was destined to be chum the minute she opened the door. 2) Our author, further down the page, conflates rape and murder ("I would like instead to see national, televised debates and full episodes of morning radio shows and several long-form podcasts and a portion of the next State of the Union address dedicated to determining whether men should be allowed to keep their dicks. Guns, however, should be given to girls at age ten"). Okay, "dick culture." But at the most basic level, rape is what happens when a consensual act becomes non-consensual. "Consent" is a tricky damn thing to measure and it's driven by "judgement" which is something we have a really hard time quantifying. Murder, on the other hand, rarely involves a spectrum of "judgement" and "consent." With murder, it's all about intent. Did you INTEND to kill him? Yes? It's murder. Did you INTEND to have sex with her? Well, did she intend to have sex with you? Did you do anything to alter that intent? Did she mind? Did she mind then? Does she mind now? Is there a difference between "consent" and "regret?" It becomes a complicated discussion. The article, by my read, is an attempt to explore some of those complexities. I'm not sure it fully succeeds. It's kind of going for a "only assholes rape, but assholes don't know they're assholes" kind of paradox. Problem is, rape is against the law. Being an asshole isn't. Thus does the issue remain unsolved.
I was actually reading for the same thing. She never addressed a very very fair point. [As a Black male of Afro-Caribbean descent] I was always trained to be aware of my environment, all the things in all the varieties that it encompasses. I also have multiple sisters and extended family members and don't remember a similar conversation happening. Even listening to tales of female peers; it seems that most have a fucked up sexual experience at some point in their lives, and they expected someone else to respond on their behalf after the fact moreso than avoiding it in the first place [in cases of date rape.] So maybe the answer is something like, men need to be taught how to address their urges properly and women need to be taught how to protect themselves in the same way men are.