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Oneeyedgoat41  ·  1749 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: What are you proudest of right now?

I started taking an acting class this semester just for something to do/trying something new/ meeting new people. I had no idea I would benefit from it this much. When I took theatre in high school, I was way too focused on being nervous about performing in front of people. At 24, that really doesn't bother me any more and I am able to focus on the acting itself. It is incredibly therapeutic. In our day-to-day lives, we spend so much time talking ourselves down from intense emotions that to have to push yourself to feel a particular emotion, especially an unpleasant one, is incredibly difficult. Once you practice enough and do it though, it is so rewarding. Sometimes I like to take hallucinogens as a way to explore my own mind, and I have found this class to be as therapeutic (but in a slightly different way.) Nothing could have prepared me for how intense it was going to be, but I am so glad I threw myself in. It has made me decide I want to pursue it consistently as a hobby, and I definitely recommend that anybody else try it out too.

Oneeyedgoat41  ·  1776 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: Hubski, what's the best thing you can do for yourself after a breakup?

I know this might sound ridiculous, and this definitely isn't the only thing you should be doing, but whenever I have a breakup with someone, I find it really comforting to remind myself that it is okay to feel this way now and that I'll feel much better in a month, a week, or even a few days, and just need to stick it out a bit.

Oneeyedgoat41  ·  1795 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: Feminism in a nutshell.

How is what anybody else in this thread said more hateful than this comic?

Oneeyedgoat41  ·  1799 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: Men: Older? School-Age? College-Age?: Do You Ever Ask These Questions?

Your last comment was interesting to me, although not for the purposes of the original thread. I can understand what you are saying in a more formal setting, but let's say, for example, if there is a school science project or even a group of friends deciding where to go for dinner, and nobody is taking initiative or making any executive decisions. Oftentimes if someone makes a decision, people automatically start taking that person's lead and asking them how they want things to go. Do you object to someone making this type of first move?

Oneeyedgoat41  ·  1815 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: Anyone up for a game of Nomic? (Or, Introducing HubNomic)

Room for one more?

Oneeyedgoat41  ·  1820 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: What makes you happy?

Oh I understand what you are saying now. Thanks for the clarification!

Oneeyedgoat41  ·  1821 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: What makes you happy?

Oh sure. I misinterpreted your sentence but my question still stands. How do non-Europeans have sex in comparison?

Oneeyedgoat41  ·  1821 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: 6 Steps to Save (Neo) Masculinity

As I understand, they have been varied and changing. Many people don't seem to realize this though. Regardless, you can't get an is from an ought.

The problem I have with this article is that, even if I were to agree (which I might, I am not convinced either way) that it makes more sense to explain patterns of irrationality as overall character flaws instead of explaining each idea in terms of the individual situation that led to it... why does it matter? Obviously people believing crazy things matters, but at the end of the day the way to address it is mostly the same. You educate people and address the points they make, regardless of whether or not it was their points that originally persuaded them or simply the people and ideas they were surrounded by. Just calling it a "character flaw" doesn't really seem to help anybody. If anything, is a somewhat defeatist attitude.

Oneeyedgoat41  ·  1822 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: What makes you happy?

What is the alternative to the European perspective? What do you mean when you say "where sex was just something your body could do in certain circumstances)?

Oneeyedgoat41  ·  1822 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: What makes you happy?

Lots of things. The one on my mind right now is the process of cooking a good meal and then eating it, especially alone. Just appreciating all the smells and tastes, making it look perfect. There is so much to enjoy.

Oneeyedgoat41  ·  1824 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: 6 Steps to Save (Neo) Masculinity

There isn't much one can do with this. It asserts that there are certain ways men and women "should" behave without giving any reason for why that is the case. It just appears to assume that the reader will take it all at face value.

Oneeyedgoat41  ·  1835 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: Men Kill Women in the U.S. So Often that It’s Usually Not Even Newsworthy

I actually disagree about this. Yes, overall, things are probably better for men than for women, especially with regards to this particular topic. However, there are some issues for which men got the short end of the stick (being taken seriously by the police when they say they have been raped, the prevalence of prison rape, the mismatch in the likelihood of getting custody of one's children, men who have had to pay child support for children they never knew they had, etc.,) and the Men's Rights Movement seeks to address those issues, without compromising the equality gained with feminism. I understand the reputation MRA's have and plenty of them are truly dangerous chauvinists, but I think this is a case, like you see with feminists as well, where a small but loud and extreme or irrational minority screams the loudest and makes the group as a whole look bad.

Oneeyedgoat41  ·  1840 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: What is your day like? What is your typical routine?

Wake up, eat breakfast, have coffee and sort out any non-work related things that I need to use the computer to do like pay bills or buy dog food or whatnot, or just surf the web, then do yoga (although I want to start lifting again soon) , shower, eat lunch, work (on the computer) for about 4 hours, and then I have dinner, sometimes with friends and sometimes alone, walk my dog, go to sleep. Usually I walk my dog in the morning but it is Arizona in the summer so right now it is a nighttime activity.

This might be it. Do you know of any bands that regularly do this kind of stuff?

Oh thank you! Ironically, Django didn't have whatever I was looking for but the others got a bit closer. Thank you!