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comment by ButterflyEffect
ButterflyEffect  ·  4254 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: The Rise and Fall of Charm in American Men.

It's people like that can completely turn a persons day around with just one sentence. It does seem to be older folks that pull of the charming persona compared to younger people.





humanodon  ·  4254 days ago  ·  link  ·  

I think it's really tied into how previous generations were socialized, both formally and informally. Civics class and etiquette aren't highly prized at present, even in very small ways. I can't tell you how many times I've encountered someone who has proudly told me in a formal dinner setting that they, "don't even know which fork is which." As an aside, I feel like such people are the ones keeping the Ugly American alive when they travel.

katakowsj  ·  4253 days ago  ·  link  ·  

I would imagine also, that the truly charming individual would be able to pull off "the fork misunderstanding" with such aplomb, that others seated near him would happily offer the correct information and feel better for having been able to help Mr. Charming.

humanodon  ·  4253 days ago  ·  link  ·  

That seems likely. I can be charming for two hours, tops. I'm generally back to being a wolf by dinner.

AnSionnachRua  ·  4253 days ago  ·  link  ·  

To be proud of such a lack of knowledge is equally as bad as being ashamed of it.

humanodon  ·  4253 days ago  ·  link  ·  

Part of being charming is being engaging without making others feel uncomfortable, for whatever reason, so of course.