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thenewgreen  ·  3236 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: Pubski: May 11, 2016

That's all awesome goobster, glad to read it. especially this bit:

    And my wedding is in exactly two months.
-be her before you know it! Congrats again.




nowaypablo  ·  3236 days ago  ·  link  ·  

    be her before you know it!

This is a warning, soon enough she will consume you and literally annex your body within her evil domion muahaahahahahahha

goobster  ·  3236 days ago  ·  link  ·  

AAHHH!! Attack of the killer typos!!

thenewgreen  ·  3236 days ago  ·  link  ·  

good catch nowaypablo. -It may not have been a typo. Anyone that's been married knows that you tend to take on the characteristics of your spouse to a degree. He may end up her.

goobster  ·  3236 days ago  ·  link  ·  

Thanks much, my friend!

Getting married to a professional organizer is ... an experience. She has everything planned down to the last detail, and I'm more of a "let's get a groovy bunch of people together in a room with some good food and liquor and have a party" kinda guy.

But we are both enjoying the process, and looking forward to the results. (I've been married before. She hasn't. So she doesn't have any idea how fast the event will go by. I'm hoping the come-down afterwards isn't too bad...)

thenewgreen  ·  3236 days ago  ·  link  ·  

    "let's get a groovy bunch of people together in a room with some good food and liquor and have a party" kinda guy.
-We are the same kind of guys.

It does go by quickly! It was a roller coaster of a day for me. Mostly good. My wife was a ball of anxiety though and that SUCKED. But, when it was all done we went to the Ritz Carlton, got on the elevator and standing next to us was Michael Stipe. We figured that this was a good sign. Turns out that so far, so good.

As you know, take time to be present and enjoy the day and each other.

goobster  ·  3235 days ago  ·  link  ·  

My sweetie can get caught up like your wife, and kinda skim across the surface of things, but I have found ways to anchor her, bring her down into some meaningful interaction, and then let her go chase shiny things again. Afterwards, she remembers the times that we connected on something, and is appreciative for it. It helps the whole event become more than just a blur of momentary connections, but a series of deep moments interspersed with fun craziness.

Hopefully the wedding will be the same!

thenewgreen  ·  3235 days ago  ·  link  ·  

My wife has a crazy ability to notice the imperfections in things. A crack here, there... It's an amazing quality for a dermatologist to have. Kinda annoying in a fiancée.