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insomniasexx  ·  3641 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: How Airbnb and Lyft Finally Got Americans to Trust Each Other

What? No juicy details? I've left this thread so unsatisfied!





ButterflyEffect  ·  3641 days ago  ·  link  ·  

Details wasn't the question!

I got Tinder a little less than a month ago, used it for a few days and matched with a girl that I thought was cute and had a lot of common interests, mostly music (this combination is somewhat rare). Another plus is that she lives a town away from where I work. She sent me a message the next day, had a good conversation and ended up going out for sushi later that week. We both eat a shit-ton of sushi, have a good time, and she invites me back to her place.

This place is like House on Haunted Hill, it's on this weird little side road / hill thing near an elementary school and at this point I'm like "uh...craigslist killer?", but it turned out fine. Went inside, talked some more and watched an episode of Archer. Next thing I know she says "hey" and pulls me in to kiss her (direct - right?), and then we have some fairly crazy sex by my standards.

That all went so well that we've been doing the whole friends with benefits thing since then. I haven't had much of a need for Tinder since then but I still use it a bit for fun. I actually have a date with a different girl tomorrow night, should be a good time.

Is that juicy enough?

insomniasexx  ·  3641 days ago  ·  link  ·  

This makes me want to try Tinder. As I mentioned elsewhere, I played with it for the first time on my roommates when we were both pretty drunk. It seemed like a really shallow game, not a way to make viable connections.

I am also legitimately surprised that it actually works. Grindr was all the rage when I was living in NYC and surrounded by gay guys. The difference is gay guys are totally okay saying, "I WANT TO FUCK...or give you a bj behind the library...NOW." Girls typically play more coy.

I've been talking about girls, sex, coyness, the game and the chase with a couple different friends recently. Guys love sex and want sex and download a Tinder app to try to have NSA sex. However, not playing the chase and catch game is a major turn off for some guys. I noticed my roommate hates it when girls text him "I want to fuck you" or equivalent sexy bluntness. He gets legitimately turned off by it and wants to chase - even after he has already had emotionally/intellectually devoid sexy-times with the person.

It's interesting that Tinder has found a way to make it work for the straight demographic. I'm sure they are still struggling with a skewed guy-girl ratio though.

    "uh...craigslist killer?",

I never knew guys had the same "is this person a secret serial killer" worries as we do!

The guy I met a few weeks ago has an amazingly odd sense of humor and made Dexter jokes the first time we met. It was sincerely creepy until I realized that they were totally about Dexter. The references weren't super obvious - he picked the smaller details.

I got him back by making Overly Attached Girlfriend jokes the second time we hung out though. :P His attempts to not seem concerned were pretty epic. He caught on (thank God - that could've really fucking backfired!) and just texted me a couple hours ago:

    Next thing I know she says "hey" and pulls me in to kiss her

I'm guilty of doing this too. I get impatient when I've decided I want a guy. It's nice to be kissed, though.

ButterflyEffect  ·  3641 days ago  ·  link  ·  

I think the thing with Tinder is that your mileage may vary depending on what kind of a person you are and/or are looking for. Me? I don't go for the "white girls partying and drinking for a bottle" or "any girl with neon anything ever" or "anything purposefully southern/redneck" crowds, and go for what I guess can be described as alternative stylings? And as a person that tries to promote himself as that type of a person it certainly is self-limiting in who you get matched with.

I think I've got like 40 matches in about a month of using it? Something like that, this weekend will be the third girl that I've actually met up with from the site. From girls that I know that use it their problem is the amount of guys that are rude or straight up ask if they want to have sex, which ties back into your points about the chase. But lets be honest, most people just want to have sex and if there's some chemistry there then why not.

    I never knew guys had the same "is this person a secret serial killer" worries as we do!

I HAVE SO MANY WORRIES, YOU HAVE NO IDEA. No, but really.

It sounds like you have found yourself a winner. Unless they aren't actually jokes that he's playing off as jokes about Dexter :P

    It seemed like a really shallow game...

P.S: It's super shallow. I only swipe for people that I find attractive and have interest in common with so maybe that's less shallow. Eh, I think there is potential to make viable connections of it despite that.

blackbootz  ·  3640 days ago  ·  link  ·  

    P.S: It's super shallow. I only swipe for people that I find attractive and have interest in common with so maybe that's less shallow. Eh, I think there is potential to make viable connections of it despite that.

I had Tindr for three days. Granted, this was while I was temporarily working in Iowa, so all the bios included sexy tractors and cowboy hashtags and there was an acronym for only being open to country dudes, I forget what it was exactly. This wasn't or isn't exactly my box of juice, but even though I was messing around, I still got way too "in my own head" about it all. About how shallow and game-able it was, and how the natural restrictions of the app select for things I don't think are good indicators for compatibility. A good display picture, something witty to draw them in. Even though that is pretty much what picking up girls when you go out is all about, looking good and saying something sharp. But good for you! Maybe now that I've moved to a big city, I'll try it again

b_b  ·  3641 days ago  ·  link  ·  

    I'm guilty of doing this too. I get impatient when I've decided I want a guy. It's nice to be kissed, though.

No...

insomniasexx  ·  3641 days ago  ·  link  ·  

Which part are you saying no to?

b_b  ·  3641 days ago  ·  link  ·  

Getting impatient. But it was a heavily sarcastic "no".

insomniasexx  ·  3641 days ago  ·  link  ·  

Hahahahahahahaha.

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Shut up.

_refugee_  ·  3638 days ago  ·  link  ·  

Awesome :)