I would love to read a whole blog post about "Can you remember when you knew it was over?" I don't know if you've written it yet. I have a long history of knowing it's going to be over before pulling the plug, often months before. I tend to beat a relationship to death before I'm ready to leave it. I want to experience all the good times, even though I know it's not going anywhere. At some point I fall out of heady, whispy, mind-numbing love and so can see clearly: "I don't want to be with this person for the rest of my life." But that doesn't usually mean, I don't want to be with this person right now. So I stay in the relationship until I no longer want to be with the person...at all. I don't know if that is right or wrong. Most people find it unusual, though. I have also wondered if I fate myself to my breakups. By saying "Oh, this'll last another six months" or "Another month before I'm sick of it," do I condemn myself to breaking up by anticipating it?
Thanks -- yes, that's a good question ref and I might have a lot to say about that. I think both men (b_b?)and women hang on long after the relationship is sooo over. When we do finally leave, it is the right time -- and we learn a lot about leaving that we can use in the future. Give me 24 hours. . .
Totally. Been there, done that. Breakin' up is hard to do. It's hard to hurt another person's feelings, and it's hard to have enough confidence in yourself to trust that you're making the right choice. But life is about choices, and I don't think that good things happen to people who sit and wait for life to come to them. I'll look forward to your post on the topic. As you know, I've been wrestling with some heavy life decisions recently (in a good way), and certainly the topic of what to do about relationships weighs heavy on a lot of people's minds.