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goobster  ·  442 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: Pubski: January 11, 2023

    "That's it, the rest is as little/as much as she wants to share. Which surprised her, in a good way."

This is honestly the first time in this saga I've felt there was anything healthy going on here, for either of you. And this is wonderful! Keep communicating your needs, and understanding her needs, and ... what more does one need? That's a good foundation, right there.





ButterflyEffect  ·  442 days ago  ·  link  ·  

Another recent example that seems healthy is we spent time together a few nights ago, hit around 10pm, asked what her thoughts were on spending the night together vs. apart. She stated she felt it would be good for her to have alone time, and asked how I felt about that because she was worried I would be disappointed. My response was that I was happy she was telling me her wants and needs, and that I had no expectation or spending the night but wanted to ask as it was getting late, no disappointment, etc.

goobster  ·  441 days ago  ·  link  ·  

BOOM! That's lovely communication and honesty, right there. That's the good stuff, because - even if it doesn't work out between you two in the end - you will both be clear on WHY it didn't work, because everything is up front and genuine and honest. I love this for you... honestly.