I've heard this said elsewhere, but it really is true. Feminism has thus-far empowered women to be just like men in the workplace. In that we work ourselves to the bone for a faceless employer and don't have a lot left over for family or community. It's important to bring that balance back around to where men and women both can have the kind of work/life balance that makes sense to each of us, independent of gender.

I was (I guess still am) a small-time mod on Reddit. I've become disillusioned with the site. I work in the digital sphere, so it's important to be where the people are so I can know what's up, but the way the admins are acting, I feel like I'd be stabbing myself in the foot if I spent any more time contributing to the community like I had been. Trying to find a new home.

I do feel a little weird swearing on this platform. Everything is so nice and clean.

Not a mom, but had a similar experience re: being a bulldog and a bitch and working hard thinking I was getting what I wanted. It was what I wanted, for a time. Then my partner and I were talking about kids, and how we would do that . The idea of working so many hours in order to employ someone else to raise our kids just seemed backwards. What were we working so hard for anyway? Professional recognition in an employment environment where our jobs were priority but our employers viewed us as replaceable? No matter how may gold-stars we had on our resume, there was always someone with 1 more willing to take our places.

I used to look down on women who I thought couldn't handle the pressure. What I realize now is that I was trying to prove something at the cost of my own happiness. If a woman wants to be an economic powerhouse, she should be able to. I wish the workplace had been more validating for me. Maybe that's a contributing factor in why I left, but I'm really glad I did. My partner and I both work from home now. We moved to a state with a lower cost of living, set up a remote office, and are working towards making an environment where we can actually raise our own kids when we get them.

If feminism is about male/female equity, then I would say that this is an extremely feminist choice. Being able to decide what our family will look like, how it will be funded and raised is extremely empowering. I want my kids to grow up with a mom that makes her own path, and has clearly defined values, family (real family, not rhetorical christian family) being one of them.