Great post because many of us, male or female have dealt with this question. I feel like you hit on the proper litmus test here:
She's now my wife and I've more than reciprocated financially (she may disagree :)) Point is, there can be situations that warrant it. My guess is that they are few and far in between. I would also guess that the guy/gal asking the question already knows the right answer but realizes its a difficult one. 9/10 times ------- just say "no". Good luck Edit: I just read cgod's comment here and it's fantastic advice.Will my loan genuinely get this person through a temporary bad patch, or am I setting up a long relationship of dependency?
I once had a girlfriend lend me $1500 to put a down payment on a car so I could get a higher paying job that required a reliable automobile.