Oh dear - what have I started -- and here I'm trying to pack for France. So mk, thenewgreen, and _refugee_: hubski is the best, most supportive, awesome community ever. Just look at the six great tips I got for visiting Paris in the springtime. The Hubski Loneliness thought - as I said, a topic that I need to develop more for another day - was about how people might sometimes visit a post, add an interesting comment or two, discuss it with others, like here for example, but not share it, or here where five different people commented, but only two people shared. I'm a little curious about that and wanted to explore more, but not now. (Maybe people figure if tng shares, they don't have to, esp of they have zero followers. On the other hand, shares might be part of the magic formula that gets a dot on the wheel.) I think there's something going on that I don't quite understand. It might be related to why so many college students are appalled when they get low grades and tons of corrections on English essays in classes I used to teach. They used to come to me weeping, saying "I got 90s on all my essays in high school." So I asked the high school teachers why they were giving 90s to papers that were FULL OF grammatical and spelling errors. They said: "We mark for self-esteem." "Even senior essays?" "Yes," they said. "Even senior essays." I wonder if Hubski sharing is something like not marking for self-esteem. Although I know that tng works specifically on building Hubski self-esteem. Tee hee. It's a much bigger topic than I have time to explore here. I'll read your responses from the wi-fi feed at the airport.As you have noticed, I frequently ask users to add a specific second tag. Of course it creates more intimacy when they oblige - yet still somehow avoid sharing. But "Hubski Loneliness" is a topic for another day.
As you can see, I was defining "Hubski Loneliness" as intimacy without sharing. Like having sex without kissing.
Sometimes I forget to upvote somthing when I comment on it. I get overeager to say my bit and push right past acknowledgment. I'll also sometimes not upvote a post that I negatively comment on. I read a lot of stuff on the internet that I enjoy but which I wouldn't post on Hubski. It's stuff that is interesting, but not stuff I care enough about to share. If a post someone else makes seems to fit that bill I'll sometimes add a comment but not upvote it.
Fascinating. I've always taken an odd pride in the phenomenon of Hubski posts that had an extensive conversation but weren't widely shared. To me, I feel it is evidence that people are thoughtful about the specific mix of posts that they make available to their followers, but that they are more than willing to get involved in discussions on topics that fall outside of this curation. It's a subtle and concientious type of interaction, I think. Personally, I am usually happier to see a comment rather than a share. Sometimes those three-Hubskier threads with dozens of comments feel like a good conversation at the cafe. Other people are around, but the discussion is still intimate. Hm. That's helped me to better define 'Hubski discussions' in my mind. Also, I think I would define my own 'Hubski loneliness' as sharing without discussion. Thanks, lil. Have a safe trip!
Also, while you're in update mode: can we get a feature where the first time I submit a comment to a thread, it sits at the top (for me only) so I can look at it, and then moves down to its regular place after the next page view? Basically what reddit does. Helps in lengthy threads if I want to proofread.
I've always taken an odd pride in the phenomenon of Hubski posts that had an extensive conversation but weren't widely shared. To me, I feel it is evidence that people are thoughtful about the specific mix of posts that they make available to their followers, but that they are more than willing to get involved in discussions on topics that fall outside of this curation.
I follow this thought process pretty often.