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geneusutwerk  ·  4238 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: Did You Meet On-Line?

    I met my current long-term partner through a personal ad.

Screw your question lil, I am curious about how this went for you. I was 12 at the end of the 90s, so wasn't too busy doing that much dating (online or personal ads), and sort of always assumed personal ads weren't really a thing people used (unless they were looking for a "masseuse").

Care to elaborate?





lil  ·  4238 days ago  ·  link  ·  

Thanks for asking, geneusutwerk. In Canada there is a "national" newspaper called The Globe and Mail. It assumed a fairly educated readership and became the go-to place for university professors to look for partners after it became no longer acceptable to date students, grad students, lab assistants, research assistants, and so on. I met a math professor who liked me a lot. I met a toxicologist (no kidding) who I liked a lot, and various polymathic men. I even posted an ad at one point that included the line "Looking for someone who has read a book" and "Looking for a man with a REALLY BIG vocabulary." The newspaper would include a mailbox # in the ad and then forward the letters that came in -- for only a month. I clipped the ad described in my blog and started to answer it, but put it aside as my step-father was dying and I was focussing on family. The night he died, I pulled out the ad again. My family had really come together for my mother and step-father. The experience was profound and I decided that I wanted to have a family myself (after being separated from a previous partner/baby daddy for about four years (four great years, mind you). I answered the ad, about 20 years ago, April 26, 1993. You can actually see us at the bottom of this blog.

geneusutwerk  ·  4237 days ago  ·  link  ·  

Thanks for posting this as well as the post to the blog.

lil  ·  4238 days ago  ·  link  ·  

Yes, yes. I've already elaborated here but will elaborate on my elaboration soon. Thanks for asking.