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IntimidatingScones  ·  4310 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: Not 30 Questions

    I was taught/extrapolated at an extremely early age that showing emotion equated to weakness

I'm thinking this topic is dead, but I find this interesting. My initial reaction was that this was a really sad thing to hear, but then remembering my own family, I realize it's according to the person. I guess I was just wondering your take on that?

Also, I suck at chess. Maybe it's tasty and I just never knew! =D





user-inactivated  ·  4310 days ago  ·  link  ·  

Oh, I just commented on your food post. Some interesting stuff, though you may actually be overestimating my food budget/available prep time.

I'm not sure if what I said was sad. I've only recently begun obliquely self-analyzing to the extent where I might decide how it's affected me (if it has). I usually take an extremely practical view of the world, and am of the opinion that my childhood doesn't really matter in comparison with where I am now.

I honestly tend to look down on people who wear their hearts on their sleeves, who lose control, who can't make a rational point without allowing emotion in. I am glad that I am not like that. I don't really understand why anyone who is like that would continue to choose to be like that. I mean no offense in case you are one of those people -- this is something about me that kicked off when I was so young I really can't help it, although I wouldn't change it if I could.

It boils down to: I'm a rationalist. I'm glad I'm a rationalist. I have often found, when talking to friends, family, coworkers, that their emotions interfere with their ability to reason. I can't be sure that I wouldn't have that mindset if I had grown up in a family with a different dynamic, so I am content with my childhood. Don't think about it much; it was a stepping stone.

Since I can't imagine being any other way, I guess I can't answer your question.

IntimidatingScones  ·  4309 days ago  ·  link  ·  

Yeah see that's what I thought. It at first sounded really sad, but then I thought "well not necessarily." And the latter is what you talked about. Yes, I am the kind of person who wears their heart on their sleeve, but I took no offense, because I know what you mean by liking who you are and never wanting to change. I changed to no sleeve-wearing, and immediately sought to change back because it's just not how I like to live. But, don't assume everyone who wears their hearts on their sleeves in over-emotional, over-reacts, and is uber defensive. It does help with reading other people a whole lot too.

Also, yo, those super-cool vitamins with sugar and fiber are usually like $1.30 a pill. That's more than the ramen meal I put up. And it literally takes the same time as mac and cheese because they both force you to wait for water to boil.

user-inactivated  ·  4309 days ago  ·  link  ·  

    But, don't assume everyone who wears their hearts on their sleeves in over-emotional, over-reacts, and is uber defensive.
Yeah! It's something I try to quash.

Nah, I get like a 50-pack of these little vitamins for maybe 5 bucks?