Very good, very clear. I'd like to talk more about these things. I hope the 99.95% of hubski users that are male are on board with understanding gender issues that women might perceive. My general feeling is that many of the men on hubski are awesome. Unfortunately there is no opportunity to ask their wives. Unless their wives are on Hubski???? Quite a few of the men here have children from 0 to 10 years old and they are very involved in their upbringing and care. thenewgreen will turn off his computer in a heartbeat to go tobogganning with his daughter. They are probably "men who get it" (get it from a woman's point of view: a woman who is actively engaged in having a flourishing life). I was impressed by the criteria posted here: “Men who get it” share some of the following characteristics and actions: They are full life partners, playing an equal role in parenting and the home
They speak out against sexism
They are aware of gender stereotypes and are not constrained by them
They mentor and advocate for women
They promote women to join men in leadership positions because they know it makes good business sense
They intentionally create gender-balanced teams and workplaces for better performance
They find creative ways to keep and promote women who take career breaks
They are prepared to step off the career ladder and take the lead in parenting
They want to be included in the conversation about gender equity
They are cool, 21st century men who want women to be themselves and bring something additive and different to the table. Should I make this a separate post? What do you think?
So much has to do with familiarity. I was raised in a family of smart and capable women. My grandmother was the director for La Casa, a shelter for women that leave abusive situations and need a safe place in transition. From a young age I heard about how some men were horrible in the ways they treated their families and I knew I'd never be one of them. I also heard of the courageous women that fled these men in hopes of providing a better life for their children. I also happen to be very attracted to strong, intelligent and capable women. I found a great companion in my wife and lucky for me, strong intelligent and capable doesn't have to come at the expense of physical beauty.
My wife is a Doctor, a one time chief resident, a former hospice end of life caregiver, a former teacher at a juvenile detention center, a mentor, a mother (damn good one) and a huge fan of music. She's the person I first play any new song for and the first to hear my podcasts. She's also the most critical of my work and is open and honest in her reception of it. -This is invaluable. There's nobody's opinion I hold in higher regard. You ask if she's on Hubski. She hasn't been in a very long time but she lurks it :) Being a good and attentive father isn't something I do out of obligation, I do it because I enjoy it. It's the most fun thing I've ever done. Hearing your child tell you, in an unsolicited occurrence, that they "love you" is the most rewarding thing I've ever experienced. Sledding with my daughter, coloring with her, singing songs and playing "house" are things I feel fortunate to be able to do. Also, from a professional standpoint one of the most capable leaders I've had in my business life was a woman. I learned a lot from her and I have modeled much of my approach to my work after her example. She's just one of many capable leaders that I've had that happen to be female. Generally speaking, I can't imagine ever thinking that anyone is any less or more capable than I am based on gender. Just makes no sense to me. Now that I am the father of a daughter it REALLY makes no sense to me. aside: Had a NYE party and a friend that has a son was over. I told him that we were considering having another baby and he said "cool, maybe you could have a boy" and my response was "why?"