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lil  ·  551 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: My 70th Birthday one-woman show

Thanks for the badge ButterflyEffect.

How are you doing?

ButterflyEffect  ·  551 days ago  ·  link  ·  

Well deserved. It stood out to me how many people were there to support you and to share the experience of your play. I really enjoyed the story of Jerry and the comment on knowing the limits of your own expertise. I actually spent some time thinking about that at work today. Am I outside of my limits? It's something I see often on online forums, and probably more often than I'm aware of in the physical world.

How am I doing? Good question. I am feeling the weight of opportunity. Last year I left my job/company of 6 years for a new role, in R&D, in an area of expertise that is new for me, and still involves managing people. It has pushed me to presenting to CEO, CFO, etc., across to other managers, and working with individual contributors. It's honestly been a lot and I'm not where I wanted to be a year into this role, but I think I underestimated how much growth would be required to do well in this role from my own perspective. Others have a high opinion of me though and are happy with the progress.

My relationship of 3 years recently ended. There's a lot of thoughts I have on that one, but better for a PM, I think. Short story - I moved to Seattle very recently. First experience living in a "large" city. Interested to see how I grow with it.

Edit: I reread this and realized I didn’t respond to “how” I’m doing but “what” I’m doing. Hm.

lil  ·  551 days ago  ·  link  ·  


Thank you for responding. It’s been interesting hearing what is personally meaningful to different people. How do we even know our level of expertise until we are beyond it?

Sometimes we stumble through, sometimes we have a mentor to guide us.

A friend of mine with Parkinson’s was particularly happy for the MRI part. He’d had a lot of brain MRIs and didn’t know anyone else who had been through that.

As for “how” vs “what”: it’s not so binary. Writing a message, reaching out, having a relationship, ending a relationship, going to work, moving to a new city: these all indicate GREAT functionality, living, struggling, reflecting, feeling. Maybe it’s not all whoop di do, but maybe there’s some of that — in the mountains, seeing a sunrise, checking hubski.