It's a timeframe thing. A church service has the potential for more spread than going to walmart because people spend longer in church than they do in Walmart. There's ample evidence that singing is a bigger spreader than talking. Can church services be held safely? Certainly. Where I am - Washington State - services are fine if they're at 25% capacity and social distancing is observed. However, the culture war take is that church services cannot be limited because it's church. It's not a pragmatic or empathetic approach. Sturgis? That's a notoriously rowdy party with a fair amount of shenanigans. Family gatherings? That has a lot more to do with the fact that cases are rising, emergency rooms are full and it's going to be the mixing of a bunch of people who aren't already mixed. You're absolutely right: there's way too many culture warriors on both sides. But the left has the advantage of excess caution while the right has the disadvantage of proven epidemiological disadvantage.