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_refugee_  ·  2174 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: Can a Male Artist Still Paint a Female Nude?

Sometimes on the internet I see people asking questions. They're a specific class of questions, though; they're the kind of inquiry where, simply by dint of asking, it's apparent to an uninvolved viewer that it's clear the moral conundrum isn't applicable to the party speaking. For instance, when people anonymously ask the internet if they might possibly be abusive towards their partner because they fear they may be, dollars to donuts every time that if there is a power imbalance in the relationship, it's not in favor of OP.

The people who are interested enough in this line of thought are not the people who should not be painting female nudes. They're not skeevy amateur photographers with expensive cameras. They believe in art for art's sake, not for getting hot girls scantily or totally undressed in front of their horny hidden (and so abusive) gaze.

It's cool people care about stuff like this enough to think about it and write this well about it.

But this is not an article that will evoke change in its audience; this is an article that will appeal to those who read it because they already agree





nowaypablo  ·  2173 days ago  ·  link  ·  

    For instance, when people anonymously ask the internet if they might possibly be abusive towards their partner because they fear they may be, dollars to donuts every time that if there is a power imbalance in the relationship, it's not in favor of OP.

Can you explain what you mean by this? Are you saying that if someone asks for outside perspective on their relationship cause they fear they might be abusive, it's usually them being the victim?

_refugee_  ·  2173 days ago  ·  link  ·  

I wouldn't go that far, but I would say that if you're asking for outside perspective and consciously worried about being an abusive partner, the likelihood is extremely good that you are not. To do so requires caring about how you treat your partner and a desire to be a good person; it requires the ability to look at oneself and wonder if maybe things are one's own fault, and not only that your personal tendencies can be changed or fixed, but maybe that they should be.

People who are abusive do not look at their relationships through that lens