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comment by kleinbl00
kleinbl00  ·  2442 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: Got temporarily banned from a class

I'm hypothesizing that she had forgotten your circumstances when she called you out publicly, but once you put her on the spot she wasn't about to back down. After all, this was a face-saving maneuver on her part ("who run bartertown?") and your counter gave her a choice between losing in her mind ("I'm sorry, I shouldn't have made such brash assumptions about what a horrible student you are") or trumpeting her charisma ("I don't care if you have an excuse, I am the alpha-omega").

The dean has far more ability to embarrass her than you do. Invoking the dean immediately solves your immediate problem but potentially leaves her wounded and angry. Giving her a chance to back down has the lowest impact on your future academic freedom.

Start with her in private, act contrite, then escalate as necessary. I'm hopeful that you won't need to escalate much.





FirebrandRoaring  ·  2442 days ago  ·  link  ·  

Thank you very much. I'll post about how it went.

kleinbl00  ·  2442 days ago  ·  link  ·  

Just be very careful not to threaten anything or imply a threat of anything until you are certain she's not going to budge. From a combat perspective she already exposed her flank by striking prematurely and without any backing strength. You don't want her to double down on her position if you can help it.

Be the supplicant. Supplicants are non-threatening. And if you fail, you don't have to be supplicating anymore and she's got to know it.