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coffeesp00ns  ·  2553 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: It's the International Trans Day of Visibility. I'm Trans. Ask Me Almost Anything

I have some of the same feelings about Alternative, or Gender Neutral pronouns that you do. I find that they can be exclusionary to people who are just trying to deal with you in every day life.

That being said, early in my transition I went by They/Them, which is a Gender Neutral pronoun, for my own comfort and because of my own insecurities.

Gender is on a spectrum, so there are a lot of gradients between the most Masculine and the most Feminine, and there are also people who feel neither masculine nor feminine. I accept all of these people, and think that their identities are valid - But trying to get our language as it stands right now to wrap around them is a problem.

We don't want to change the people, so we have to change the language. We just need to... y'know... agree on a gender neutral pronoun.





demure  ·  2553 days ago  ·  link  ·  

Ah! I know someone who goes by Mx. Lastname instead of Ms or Mr. How to pronounce it?

coffeesp00ns  ·  2553 days ago  ·  link  ·  

The people I know who use it pronounce it "Mix". I have a friend who was Mx. Capital Pride 2016. Capital being Ottawa,

edit: as a sidenote, i think "Mx. " Is a really good gender neutral solution for how to address people in a formal way. Ontario has also started to include an "x" for gender designation on drivers licenses.

demure  ·  2553 days ago  ·  link  ·  

Awesome thanks!