Reading your post made me realize something about my own dating profile. I've received a couple scam emails, one "ur profile rocks" that seemed to be a real email, and that's it. It's disappointing. I did meet up with one person recently. We had coffee and pleasant conversation, then she sent me a very kind message that she wasn't interested in meeting again and wished me well.
It's a strange awful process, but the "impenetrable" process seemed to work. The prince didn't even pay for the website that he was searching. He was allowed to post a profile and look at profiles, but not message or receive messages. Like a prince, he found the magic key that I hid in my profile and was able to unlock the door to the castle by following the hints.