Ya know... I think I'm reading something between the lines in your comments... I don't think you are "whole" right now. And you can't be a good partner to someone, unless you are first good to yourself. Moving 5 times in 3+ years is a BIG sign. It takes TIME to get settled in. To figure out who you are in this new place. To find your rhythms. And you can dance with someone else until you can figure out your own rhythms. I think maybe you are pushing it too hard. Rushing into something that you know you aren't going to be completely committed to, and therefore self-sabotaging. BUT. I think you are doing the right things. Settling in. Doing the three-days-a-week stuff. Making friends. Being YOU. So be YOU for a while. Get comfortable. Only then will you become someone that others want to snuggle with. (All meant in good spirit. No abuse/jibes intended.)
Thanks goobster, definitely no jibes felt. I think you're completely right. The best part is I'm likely to move again in a few months (staying the same region, but still). The cycle of move or do something new - make friends - keep friends for a period of time - repeat is a lot more draining that I thought it would be, and, to be clear on the last point there are people who to snuggle with me at this point in time but not entirely sure where I'm at mentally to be doing like that.