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lil  ·  3046 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: What Rustles Your Jimmies?

Regarding the first friend: If there is a long-standing loyalty or debt of friendship or important past shared experience, you might want to continue the friendship in some form. Decide how much of your time you can afford. Protect yourself by combining time with that friend with another activity that you have to do. The person might move from being a caseload to being something else.





WanderingEng  ·  3045 days ago  ·  link  ·  

We definitely have all those reasons to remain friends, and she wasn't always a caseload. Currently my approach to stay sane is when she stops replying to messages, I stop caring. It's effective in making me not feel cast aside, but the consequence is growing apathy toward her.