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thenewgreen  ·  4327 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: Your Tax Dollars Hard at Work
    How about teaching our kids that it is not "alright to just have sex with no protection and with irresponsibility"
I was taught that, you were likely taught that too... how did that work out for you? Let's be honest here, it's human nature to begin having sex when your hormones kick in to overdrive and make you want to have sex 24/7. Instead of pretending that abstinence works, let's be realistic -It doesn't. Have you ever known a girl that was brought up in a "traditional environment" that had a child out of wedlock? -I'd be willing to bet everything I own that you do. Maybe if she or the guy that impregnated her were taught to use protection, it may have been avoided.

    How about the federal government not being at odds with common sense marriage/relationship tenants that have been around for 8000 years or more?
-Can you elaborate on this one? How is the Fed govt at odds with marriage tenants? -Also "common sense" is a subjective thing.

Still my question is "why not reform welfare (we both agree it's broken) and simultaneously provide birth control? One takes care of the long term problem and the other takes care of the immediate".





hootsbox  ·  4325 days ago  ·  link  ·  
To say that, "Have you ever known a girl (and the guy too by the way) with traditional values that got pregnant" as a rule for not teaching traditional values is like saying "Have you ever seen a three legged calf?" Yes, but that does not mean all calves are three legged. The answer is: of course we have seen that! But to then say "abstinence" or traditional" values should be done away with or discouraged in our schools (I did not say do away with sex education, just the government paying for all your paraphernalia) because a "traditional" values girl got pregnant is a huge stretch of the imagination. The instances, or percentage, of those raised with traditional values (and what is to stop the parents from educating their children on birth control and sexual behavior?) is probably lower as compared to the total population of those that hold the same values, than those raised with little or no value input or without traditional values.

Here's one note on the "abstinence" hypothesis:

http://www.washingtonpost.com/wp-dyn/content/article/2010/02...

And another:

http://www.npr.org/templates/story/story.php?storyId=1234011...

While one can find any "article" that supports his or her "theory", the bottom line is that the percentage may be less with those who are encouraged to wait (needless to say it would have a more positive impact on STD's and the like). It is hard to catch an STD if you don't "pass the plate around" so to speak.

Mankind is saddled with a natural "nature" that tends to allow all kinds of horrible attributes: murder, genocide, theft, lying, cruelty, abuse of power, and the like. If time and "progressive ideas" worked so well, we would all be growing more altruistic and kind. Alas, that is not the case. I have my opinions about how to "in general" turn that nature around and "disable its negative power" so to speak, but that is a different discussion.

I have read some of the "atheist" hypotheses about abstinence like the one that concludes: those with traditional values have a higher birth rate than those who don't! Well duh! Those with more "religious" or "traditional" value would be more likely to carry the child full term because they tend NOT to choose abortion. That conclusion is about as useful as a two legged stool!

To say it is the government's responsibility (and therefore all taxpayers regardless of their beliefs) to pay for your birth control because someone got pregnant is a stretch.

Should be then do away with the law "do not commit murder" (where have I heard that before?) and its accompanying punishments because someone gets murdered? You would say no way (unless you are Mao Zedong), Pol Pot, Che Guavara or Joseph Stalin - not to mention that Adolf guy). So, to say we should not encourage "waiting" is to say the same thing. By the way, having laws against murder doesn't alleviate the problem of murder, but it does tend to discourage it - would you not agree.

Point Two:

There have been many cases in the courts where, even on a scientific basis with facts about STD's, premature educational dropout rates, increase in the tendency towards poverty (there is a University of Wisconsin study on these items), and increased crime rates, “abstinence” or something similar to “abstinence education” has been stricken because it supposedly violates the "separation clause" (another discussion on this misled, non-factual and precedence-less Supreme Court conclusion later) and is deemed "religious" in nature. Schools around the country have been prohibited from supporting a "traditional" sexual practices rule on the same, "lame" (and unfounded prior to 1947) rule.

thenewgreen  ·  4325 days ago  ·  link  ·  
    "Have you ever seen a three legged calf?"
-No, I haven't because they aren't that common. Unwanted pregnancies are quite common though.

    to then say "abstinence" or traditional" values should be done away with or discouraged in our schools
-I never suggested they be "done away with", just that they don't work for everyone. If studies are showing that they are more effective then previously thought, why not have a comprehensive approach of abstinence and protection?

You use the word "traditional" a lot in your response. In your previous comment you said,

    "How about the federal government not being at odds with common sense marriage/relationship tenants that have been around for 8000 years or more?"
-Let's be honest here, marriage has changed a LOT over the past 8000 years.

This article states this well

    "Christian marriage has not always been between “one man and one woman.” For most of recorded biblical history, polygamy was seen as normative. For example, the patriarch Jacob had at least three wives (Genesis 30), King David had at least eight, and his son Solomon had 700 (1 Kings 11:1-3)—not to mention 300 concubines!

    Even during the early centuries AD when the books of the New Testament were being written and compiled, polygamous marriages were common. In several of his epistles, Paul specified that those in positions of leadership in the early church should be the “husband of but one wife” (see Titus 1:6, 1 Tim. 3:2).

    Marriage in the early church bore little resemblance to the institution we know today. It was primarily an institution of the state. Once a Christian couple had been legally married, they would attend liturgy, received the Eucharist together, and be blessed by the local bishop. The features we recognize as typical of a wedding ceremony—the use of a simple white veil and the symbolic joining of the couple’s hands—did not begin to appear until the time of Augustine (354-430)".

We know there are two things that work to prevent unwanted pregnancies; 1. Abstinence 2. Contraception. We should be promoting both and if the government can lower unwanted pregnancies (especially amongst the poor) then I'm all for it. If it's a matter of needing more tax revenue, then let's tax the churches.

I'd love to go on, but I have to go to work.

hootsbox  ·  4313 days ago  ·  link  ·  
But remember that Jesus said, "It was not that way from the beginning", but due to the "hardness of your hearts" Moses allowed divorce (and polygamy I might add). I do agree with both abstinence and contraception (the rhythm method seems to produce a pregnancy more often than not). If one's heart intention is not "hard" then he, or she, will give their lives unabashedly and fully, to their one mate with the intention of making their, not our, lives more fulfilling and enjoyable, and thus, enjoy their lives more. As Zig Ziglar said, "If you help enough other people get what they want in life, you will get what you want"! Truer words, especially in a monogamous marriage relationship, were never spoken. I have read it said, "If the grass seems greener on the other side of the fence, then you are not fertilizing the grass on your side of the fence"! I agree wholeheartedly, we can make it work. True "Christian" and most other religions I might add, do adhere to "one man and one woman" tenants. It is better that way, and I, as a hippie with "many love interests" that only lasted as long as I, selfishly, was enthralled with the state of the "relationship" (and it accompanying shallowness of relationship without true commitment), and, if it didn't accomplish that selfish goal, it ended. The commitment was only, "skin deep" so to speak! For thousands of years as well, monogamy and "being the husband of ONE wife" prevailed, and produced a more healthy macro-economic and "emotional" state than the alternative!
hootsbox  ·  4320 days ago  ·  link  ·  
To get back to what I would do to prevent unwanted pregnancies from your earlier question, I would suggest these on a conceptual basis. It is also good to remember that we got here over 50+ years, so whoever is in charge, it will take a longer, concerted effort with permanent changes in policy design and policies. So, I would:

1. Redesign the welfare system to encourage more "workfare". We have that now in states (thanks to the Welfare Reform Act of 1996 signed by Clinton and proposed by Republican legislatures), however, I would:

a. Limit welfare benefits to a maximum of five years under normal circumstances, and extend to 7 years if the recipient was enrolled in a school program or job training program. However, we should discourage "generational" welfare or welfare as a "lifestyle" as it has become in historical perspective. b. We would have to provide assistance for child care during this period of education for the recipient. However, after a decade or two, we may not need this assistance because the family structure would be "restored" or repaired. c. We should "stair step" the benefits as the recipient earns more money. Once able to achieve "self-sufficiency", they will be able to provide for themselves. I believe most welfare recipients DO want to do this. d. We should begin to teach "generic morals" in primary schools and encourage waiting until marriage to have sex. Is this going to "cure" sexual promiscuity? No, but it could have a positive effect in reducing the number of unwed pregnancies. I do believe we can also teach the positive effects of using birth control has. The parents can also be invited to become involved or provide "mentors" from both secular and religious organizations to help educate the kids and parents. The "abstinence" education and other "sex education" together; they are NOT mutually exclusive. e. We should allow marriage while on welfare, and then encourage both to become self-sufficient. Again keeping the overall benefit timeframe is good. To cut off all or most benefits because a guy marries his "knocked up" girlfriend is not in the long term interest of the nation.

2. Redesign the Department of Education by reducing its size and influence. We can achieve this by attrition and redefining the responsibility and scope of the department. The department encourages more "elitist" theories than old fashioned "three R's". They should be more of a "clearing house" of ideas that bubble up from local and state initiatives that are proven to be successful and quit "dictating" the educational platform for local and state boards. In fact, I believe we should combine the departments of HHR, HUD, and the Department of Education into one department - the Department of Internal Affairs and reduce the entire staff by a third of one half of their current size. We have become more a nation of the "rule of oligarchy" than a constitutional republic. We are ruled by bureaucratic "elites" instead of ruled by congressional legislative processes. The OWS folks should be demonstrating about this as well as the "1%". Political elites are as dangerous as the "wealthy few"!

b_b  ·  4320 days ago  ·  link  ·  
We can agree that the Dept of Ed is a tyrannical organization, and that we would be better served if they were in the business of support for local school districts than in the business of dictating curricula. We actually have W to thank for a lot of that, with the advent of No Child Left Behind, the biggest federal takeover of local schools in US history. BO has certainly done nothing but amp it up.

On the first point, I would argue that teaching about waiting to have sex until marriage is far from a generic moral; it is a religious ideal, and it has no place in most modern people's lives. To call it generic moral is so far from reality, as to be pure fantasy. To me, generic morals are essentially that which infringes on the freedom of others; i.e. don't murder, steal, etc. Anything to do with sex is a personal choice, and personal morality. Its not for any school to be teaching religious norms.

hootsbox  ·  4313 days ago  ·  link  ·  
Or...one could argue, and overwhelmingly I might add, that the opposite is also an infringement on the freedom of others, others that, by the way, are protected by the First Amendment of the US Constitution, that they also, don't get "marginalized" and pushed as an irrelevant "minority", when, in reality, are the majority and made the majority of the citizens in the founding of our nation. One can look at STDs, growth in the crime rate, poverty levels, high school dropout rates, and other like indicators, and see that teaching "generic" morality based on the actual results of NOT following monogamy and abstinence from a statistical point of view (see the Statistical Abstract of the United States).

Also, to say that the modern Western "rule of law" has no basis in religious "ten commandments" or, universally, the "big eight” which are shared by all world religions, is historically incorrect, un-factual, and is not grounded in "correct history" (only in revisionist history of the "progressives" post 1947) which is mostly what is taught in our "institutions of higher learning". Starting with Lord Blackstone, and the Magna Carta, most of the concepts of "freedom" are based in the Judeo/Christian ethic and rule of law! If you say that, for instance, stealing is wrong, but it is not based on the “ten commandment” mandates is to fly in the face of reason.