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War  ·  3129 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: Pubski: September 23, 2015

I'm someone who firmly believes in the idea that someone can grow and mature, so I can be persuaded to trust people after they've broken it. It may take you literally years and years, but it happens. Well, I'm here to say: yea fuck that. Some people are just awful, and won't change no matter what you do. Sometimes this isn't their fault exactly as they are battling with deeply ingrained issues, but sweet mother of god that is not your place to heal them. Sometimes the best and only option is distance (how much distance depends on the situation).

In other news I delivered two speeches this week one introducing a fellow classmate, and another on the issue of American Infrastructure. I think both went well, but I made both so what do I know? School in general is going pretty good, and I'm definitely trying my best to be more outgoing this year (You might think that's a bit late being a senior and all, but I try not to think about the past).

My gym-going has come to a halt after I kind of hurt my left knee. It has made it nearly impossible for me to squat without further injury, so I've actually had to take a break for a week or two (at least until it feels better). If it doesn't improve in the first week I'll probably see a doctor about it.

Off the top of my head I can't really think of anything else going on in my life...I did ask a woman out a few days ago. It didn't go my way, but I'm not too beat up about it.

P.S. arguewithatree I know we haven't checked in awhile, but I hope your fitness is still going well. Mine of course has come to a halt (besides some workouts that don't involve my knee).





WanderingEng  ·  3129 days ago  ·  link  ·  

    Some people are just awful, and won't change no matter what you do. Sometimes this isn't their fault exactly as they are battling with deeply ingrained issues

My anecdote on this is one friend and I were really, really close for a lot of reasons. Similar interests, similar opinions on things, similar challenges we were struggling with. But we each had our own issues that made everything not perfect. I could point to some of hers that bothered me and could list some of my own that probably bothered her. We grew distant for about a year.

But all those compatabilities still existed, and we rekindled the friendship. But now we keep a little distance, and it seems to work well. Neither of us annoy the other because we avoid those situations.

It's just one data point, but I do think it's possible to restore past ties, being careful to avoid the things that bothered us in the first place. Because I agree: those things don't change. But we can change how or even if we have to deal with those things.

Did you touch on electrical infrastructure? That's my area and always find opinions, views and discussions fascinating.

War  ·  3129 days ago  ·  link  ·  

It was only a five and half minute speech for class which really limited the topics I was able to highlight in it. I did mention some aspects of electrical infrastructure, but geared my speech more towards things classmates could relate to like school infrastructure, road/bridges, water, and then a more general discussion. I'm extremely interested in almost every category of American Infrastructure, but it was just too much for a speech haha

arguewithatree  ·  3129 days ago  ·  link  ·  

oh no D: RICE that ish.

this just made me realize I completely forgot to grab the guest passes for my gym yesterday because my experience with the fucking fellowship office at Georgetown was so abysmal I rage quit right then and there. basically, i submitted a draft for my fulbright application in july, got a shitload of edits that i made, resubmitted it, interviewed in front of a panel of past reviewers yesterday, and every single piece of advice they told me was the EXACT opposite of what the fellowship office had told me to do -- and what i had done originally.

rage.