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hogwild  ·  1351 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: Everything is Broken - computers are terrible and everything is hackable

I'm not interested in the content of an argument over the language that upset empty.

However, "My best friends are X" is never some trump card against "I am X". I understand that you feel empty hasn't earned the right to ask you to change your language to make them more comfortable. But this template of "my friends / family from Oppressed Group agree with me!" is generally one to be avoided.

Have you ever read an extremely misogynistic screed written by a person who insists that they get along fine with women, because their mother was one? Ever talked to someone who insists nobody reasonable could be offended by trivializing the Holocaust because their Jewish boyfriend is kind of into Nazi/prisoner roleplay? (I have encountered both scenarios.) That is how your "trump" reads to me. Mental illness in your family is a very personal connection, but it's not the most personal connection.

kleinbl00  ·  1351 days ago  ·  link  ·  

Did anyone ask you?

Do you know me?

Did you notice that the subject of discussion was "things that hurt other people's feelings? "


Well let me just point that out then.

Then allow me to say that I spent pretty much the '90s clinically depressed so even the argument you want to make is invalid.

And then go away.