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_refugee_  ·  3429 days ago  ·  link  ·    ·  parent  ·  post: What is your irrational fear?

Hey! Wondering if any heights more specifically get to you than others. Kind of like how jleopold specified.

I ask because while heights are definitely a big fear for me there are specific kind of "heights" that are worse. For instance do not ask me to walk on a railroad that goes over water - being able to see between the slats, even though I know I couldn't possibly fit through them, really intensifies my height problem. Even docks can have this impact on me, since you can see through the boards. I try to reassure myself because hell, it's a dock and even if I did fall the water's not that deep and I'd be fine - but the fear's still there and more intense than it would be if I couldn't see through the boards.

For me it honestly seems more a fear of falling than heights themselves. I stay far away from edges. I agree with b_b's thought that it is probably more a control thing than anything else. Also, I have those intrusive thoughts we've talked about before - where I compulsively think about destroying objects (my cell phone usually) or what-if-I-just - my "what-if-I-just" thoughts are usually, "swerve my car into oncoming traffic" or "jump off this bridge," etc, so...you can see why I stay away from edges of things.





OftenBen  ·  3429 days ago  ·  link  ·  

    For me it honestly seems more a fear of falling than heights themselves. I stay far away from edges.

That's really it more than heights I guess. I'm with you on the edge paranoia. In my case I'm not sure if it's a control thing or a 'I can't differentiate the call of the void from suicidal ideation' thing.