It does stem from my selfish nature. I'm going to do my best to change my view, but it will not happen in a moment, no matter how much I may wish for it. It is why adherence to the worldview of Love is so important: I must learn to respect others in a way that I'd like to be respected myself, as per the golden rule. Regarding the position of victim you've mentioned: what parts of the post you see as most related to it? P.S. I shall use this opportunity to let TheVenerableCain know that I've heard their words and do not reply because I must think of the important point provided in their post. I'll reply once I'd have something important to say.
I am no expert, but: Victim mentality is usually very negative and accusatory of others. Accusations lead to defensive responses, and it all spirals down from there. When you have a disagreement is the correct time to use "I" statements - "I feel you misunderstood me, and I disagree with x in your response." It is rarely helpful to say, "You are wrong." It is not a battle. Be polite, thank them for their opinion, and genuinely consider what they have to say. Ask questions to clarify. Don't think of it as people learning from you; reframe your thoughts to what YOU can learn from other people.misunderstanding of what I was digging into.
Though if you were going to rage on if I didn't agree with you somewhere down the road and your ego was hurt either way, you can go fuck yourself.
Damn it. You're right. When you put it that way, it seems so simple that it makes me wonder why didn't it appear to me as well, as we usually do when encounter such things. I understand what you mean and I thank you for sharing this piece of wisdom.