I am no expert, but: Victim mentality is usually very negative and accusatory of others. Accusations lead to defensive responses, and it all spirals down from there. When you have a disagreement is the correct time to use "I" statements - "I feel you misunderstood me, and I disagree with x in your response." It is rarely helpful to say, "You are wrong." It is not a battle. Be polite, thank them for their opinion, and genuinely consider what they have to say. Ask questions to clarify. Don't think of it as people learning from you; reframe your thoughts to what YOU can learn from other people.misunderstanding of what I was digging into.
Though if you were going to rage on if I didn't agree with you somewhere down the road and your ego was hurt either way, you can go fuck yourself.